DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
What does this mean when a girl says "we're moving too fast"?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I think we're moving too fast
- Thread starter DrMetallica
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Sasha
Don Juan
it means you didn't do your job. if you did, she would be screeming "fck me allready"!!
Kitsune
Don Juan
It means "I'm going to think up an arbitrary common reason in order to shock and confuse you and then enjoying watching you squirm as you bend to my will. If you agree to this, then I will be making the rules of the relationship and you will be my slave."
Well, effectively anyway.
Turn around, and walk away.
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
Well we've done everything except for sex.
johnny_dangerously
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Sometimes it means "I am keeping you on the back burner in case this other guy I'm seeing doesn't work out."
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
usually it means i like someone else also and want to slow down take a little time and figure out who i like more
You're coming off as being too clingy and needy. She's feeling too responsible for your happiness and is overwhelmed.
You're giving too much attention and affection. She's already got her fill of intimacy for a bit. If you want to keep this relationship going then you will need to back off and keep yourself busy doing other things. Divide the time you spend with her in half and don't push for more closeness. That will push her away. If you pull away a little bit, in no time she'll react by wanting more intimacy with you.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
Re: Re: I think we're moving too fast
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82763
read this thread, verifies exactly what wyldfire is saying
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82763
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It's ******** for "For the love of god man grow some balls, go and get your own life and fvck other chicks, at least give me some form of challenge to work with here."
Doing the above usually has the b!tch spreading her legs within a record amount of time.
There is no "moving to fast" thats her reality, NOT the mans. 8 times out of 10 its just the b!tches ASD kicking in and a fault in your game and should be ignored totally, just the usual meaningless garbage that comes out of some chicks mouths . If she continues with it cut the b!tch loose.
No offense mate but this is like the most basic of sh!t chicks will throw at you and youve been here for how long and still dont know whats up? Ive read some of your posts and know your not a fvckup/AFC etc etc. Whats goin on man, was this like a test you threw out so you could gauge by the reponses at how high sosauve now rates on the chumpometer?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
No, it's not that. And I'm not clingy/needy. I've only seen her once in the past 2 weeks, she was the one that made the date, said she wanted to see me, drove, etc... She's just like in the car "you're the first guy I've been with in a long time (a year), and we're moving too fast physically".
I think it's funny because whenever we're home alone at her house (or my house), I always tell her to control herself, be on her best behavior, and ask her to please act like a responsible young adult and try not to rip my clothes off no matter how good I look, etc. And whenever she says even remotely sexual (ie. I'm coming), I'll tell her to get her mind outta the gutter!
I also tell her about some of the chicks I hang out with, so I know it's not that.
Hmmm.
I think it's funny because whenever we're home alone at her house (or my house), I always tell her to control herself, be on her best behavior, and ask her to please act like a responsible young adult and try not to rip my clothes off no matter how good I look, etc. And whenever she says even remotely sexual (ie. I'm coming), I'll tell her to get her mind outta the gutter!
I also tell her about some of the chicks I hang out with, so I know it's not that.
Hmmm.
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You should have said that in your intial post. Anyway in that case your fine, your game is probably fine and like I touched on before its just your run of the mill chick speak.
Im covering my bases if and when you fvck me so I dont look like a slut by you and society, I've always had other bozos wait for my cvnt indefinitely if I chose to but I'm getting the feeling your different than them and I'm a bit unsure yada yada type deal.
Again pay no attention to it, and just keep agreeing and escalating until you tap it.
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
Sound advice 