DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
What does this mean when a girl says "we're moving too fast"?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I think we're moving too fast
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Sasha
Don Juan
it means you didn't do your job. if you did, she would be screeming "fck me allready"!!
Kitsune
Don Juan
It means "I'm going to think up an arbitrary common reason in order to shock and confuse you and then enjoying watching you squirm as you bend to my will. If you agree to this, then I will be making the rules of the relationship and you will be my slave."
Well, effectively anyway.
Turn around, and walk away.
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
Well we've done everything except for sex.
johnny_dangerously
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Sometimes it means "I am keeping you on the back burner in case this other guy I'm seeing doesn't work out."
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
usually it means i like someone else also and want to slow down take a little time and figure out who i like more
You're coming off as being too clingy and needy. She's feeling too responsible for your happiness and is overwhelmed.
You're giving too much attention and affection. She's already got her fill of intimacy for a bit. If you want to keep this relationship going then you will need to back off and keep yourself busy doing other things. Divide the time you spend with her in half and don't push for more closeness. That will push her away. If you pull away a little bit, in no time she'll react by wanting more intimacy with you.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
Re: Re: I think we're moving too fast
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82763
read this thread, verifies exactly what wyldfire is saying
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82763
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It's ******** for "For the love of god man grow some balls, go and get your own life and fvck other chicks, at least give me some form of challenge to work with here."
Doing the above usually has the b!tch spreading her legs within a record amount of time.
There is no "moving to fast" thats her reality, NOT the mans. 8 times out of 10 its just the b!tches ASD kicking in and a fault in your game and should be ignored totally, just the usual meaningless garbage that comes out of some chicks mouths . If she continues with it cut the b!tch loose.
No offense mate but this is like the most basic of sh!t chicks will throw at you and youve been here for how long and still dont know whats up? Ive read some of your posts and know your not a fvckup/AFC etc etc. Whats goin on man, was this like a test you threw out so you could gauge by the reponses at how high sosauve now rates on the chumpometer?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
No, it's not that. And I'm not clingy/needy. I've only seen her once in the past 2 weeks, she was the one that made the date, said she wanted to see me, drove, etc... She's just like in the car "you're the first guy I've been with in a long time (a year), and we're moving too fast physically".
I think it's funny because whenever we're home alone at her house (or my house), I always tell her to control herself, be on her best behavior, and ask her to please act like a responsible young adult and try not to rip my clothes off no matter how good I look, etc. And whenever she says even remotely sexual (ie. I'm coming), I'll tell her to get her mind outta the gutter!
I also tell her about some of the chicks I hang out with, so I know it's not that.
Hmmm.
I think it's funny because whenever we're home alone at her house (or my house), I always tell her to control herself, be on her best behavior, and ask her to please act like a responsible young adult and try not to rip my clothes off no matter how good I look, etc. And whenever she says even remotely sexual (ie. I'm coming), I'll tell her to get her mind outta the gutter!
I also tell her about some of the chicks I hang out with, so I know it's not that.
Hmmm.
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You should have said that in your intial post. Anyway in that case your fine, your game is probably fine and like I touched on before its just your run of the mill chick speak.
Im covering my bases if and when you fvck me so I dont look like a slut by you and society, I've always had other bozos wait for my cvnt indefinitely if I chose to but I'm getting the feeling your different than them and I'm a bit unsure yada yada type deal.
Again pay no attention to it, and just keep agreeing and escalating until you tap it.
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
Sound advice 