a year ago i met this married woman on the internet . we were friends and friendship progressed to love . i never took any intrest in her husband because even before i met her , i had a vague idea that she had an ******* of a husband .
so we were in love and we spoke all the time on the phone ( she lives in another state 300 miles away ) . and one day she told me the story of her marriage and her life . she was young and she got married in a conservative society thru a match making service . before the marriage took place her would be husband and she had sex , which she says was not entirely her wish . but due to fear of social stigma , as she comes from a very conservative society , she feared that her would be hubby would back out of the marriage and she gave in and they had sex which left her feeling ****ed . But she thought that this would be ok " i had to be screwed some time " , im marrying this guy , so wat the **** .
her husband is a very well educated , reputed , fella who's a big shot in a mining company and he earns a lot of money .
after marriage , she finds out that her husband is schizophrenic and this was keep away from her . he hits her , abuses her . but then besides the schizophrenic episodes , even when he is a normal fella , he is nasty . in the sense , trying to have sex all the time , not giving her money , making her work and pay for her own expenses . threatening to throw her out , not allowing her to visit her family at times . she copes with everything and she develops a coping pattern .
she and her husband also go to a lot of parties and take vacations and the expensive thing . she has a taste for high living . but somehwre inside she felt hollow and she fell in love with me .
i met her and we spent time , had sex , but it was love both for me and her . i did not ask her anything about divorcing her ******* of a husband , since i feel it has to come from her .
she started acting weird when i returned to my hometown utah . fights over the phone , blame throw for messin up her complex life etc .
i understood that she was finding it difficult to live with that ******* of a husband after meeting me / having a relationship with me .bt then she would fight for " no reason " . then she tells me that its not possible for her to divorce her husband and get married to me . I told her that i never asked her to get divorced in the first place .and she says i love u but i gotta be with him , for the sake of my parents and avoiding social stigma which comes from a ultra conservative society.
Me and her are not americans by birth ,we some from a country where breaking a marriage is still considered taboo by people ( *******s )
i have done quite something for her , and she says she got all that she got from me which she never did from her hubby of 3 and 1/2 years . including love , affection , warmth , cooperation , phsyical satisfaction from sex , generosity ( gave her a few gifts ) , compassion towards her situation , respect towards her and her family ( parents etc )
now she has stopped talking , though not entirely . instead of fighting with her husband who still treats her like toilet tissue , she fights with me , and she goes out with her husband saying " she has to do the things a dutiful woman wuld as a wife " and she's stuck here in this situation forever .
her reasons for staying with her husband are
1. fear of social stigma
2. she came to the united states on the basis of her husbands job / visa
so she doesnt qualify for a visa independently
but i think that she has a taste for high life also . besides that she always has said that she is proud of her husbands achievements. also i noticed that she goes out with her husband ( which is obvious ) and she tries to have a good time and she does . she doesnt have the nerve to fight back with her husband.
and she has subconsciously chosen to forget what he has done to her . she is kind of happy with the status and the make beleive happiness she gets , and im sure her husband has been nice to her at times , but he also has beaten her up badly,abused her sexually , and all that .
tell me guys , what do i do . I KNOW SHE LOVES ME , I LOVE HER TOO . IS THERE A WAY I CAN GET HER TO BREAK AWAY FROM THE DIP**** THAT SHE CALLS HER MARRIAGE . IVE LOST HOPE
I HAVE NOT WRITTEN IT ALL COZ THAT WOULD BE A ****ING LONG STORY
APPRECIATE YOUR REPLIES GUYS . BAD SITUATION , IM EMOTIONALLY VERY INVOLVED , THIS IS SERIOUS .
so we were in love and we spoke all the time on the phone ( she lives in another state 300 miles away ) . and one day she told me the story of her marriage and her life . she was young and she got married in a conservative society thru a match making service . before the marriage took place her would be husband and she had sex , which she says was not entirely her wish . but due to fear of social stigma , as she comes from a very conservative society , she feared that her would be hubby would back out of the marriage and she gave in and they had sex which left her feeling ****ed . But she thought that this would be ok " i had to be screwed some time " , im marrying this guy , so wat the **** .
her husband is a very well educated , reputed , fella who's a big shot in a mining company and he earns a lot of money .
after marriage , she finds out that her husband is schizophrenic and this was keep away from her . he hits her , abuses her . but then besides the schizophrenic episodes , even when he is a normal fella , he is nasty . in the sense , trying to have sex all the time , not giving her money , making her work and pay for her own expenses . threatening to throw her out , not allowing her to visit her family at times . she copes with everything and she develops a coping pattern .
she and her husband also go to a lot of parties and take vacations and the expensive thing . she has a taste for high living . but somehwre inside she felt hollow and she fell in love with me .
i met her and we spent time , had sex , but it was love both for me and her . i did not ask her anything about divorcing her ******* of a husband , since i feel it has to come from her .
she started acting weird when i returned to my hometown utah . fights over the phone , blame throw for messin up her complex life etc .
i understood that she was finding it difficult to live with that ******* of a husband after meeting me / having a relationship with me .bt then she would fight for " no reason " . then she tells me that its not possible for her to divorce her husband and get married to me . I told her that i never asked her to get divorced in the first place .and she says i love u but i gotta be with him , for the sake of my parents and avoiding social stigma which comes from a ultra conservative society.
Me and her are not americans by birth ,we some from a country where breaking a marriage is still considered taboo by people ( *******s )
i have done quite something for her , and she says she got all that she got from me which she never did from her hubby of 3 and 1/2 years . including love , affection , warmth , cooperation , phsyical satisfaction from sex , generosity ( gave her a few gifts ) , compassion towards her situation , respect towards her and her family ( parents etc )
now she has stopped talking , though not entirely . instead of fighting with her husband who still treats her like toilet tissue , she fights with me , and she goes out with her husband saying " she has to do the things a dutiful woman wuld as a wife " and she's stuck here in this situation forever .
her reasons for staying with her husband are
1. fear of social stigma
2. she came to the united states on the basis of her husbands job / visa
so she doesnt qualify for a visa independently
but i think that she has a taste for high life also . besides that she always has said that she is proud of her husbands achievements. also i noticed that she goes out with her husband ( which is obvious ) and she tries to have a good time and she does . she doesnt have the nerve to fight back with her husband.
and she has subconsciously chosen to forget what he has done to her . she is kind of happy with the status and the make beleive happiness she gets , and im sure her husband has been nice to her at times , but he also has beaten her up badly,abused her sexually , and all that .
tell me guys , what do i do . I KNOW SHE LOVES ME , I LOVE HER TOO . IS THERE A WAY I CAN GET HER TO BREAK AWAY FROM THE DIP**** THAT SHE CALLS HER MARRIAGE . IVE LOST HOPE
I HAVE NOT WRITTEN IT ALL COZ THAT WOULD BE A ****ING LONG STORY
APPRECIATE YOUR REPLIES GUYS . BAD SITUATION , IM EMOTIONALLY VERY INVOLVED , THIS IS SERIOUS .
