Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I think this girl likes me!

trans_am17

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First of all I know you shouldn't date co-workers. But today at work there was this new girl(about a HB8) Shes also a cashier and to day was our 1st time working together. It was really busy so there was no chance for us to talk or anything. But I notices that she thru-out the whole day she kept glancing over at me. Ans she'd hold eye contact even if I stared right back at her. Also before she left I saw her talking to this other co-worker and they were looking over at me and I could tell they were obviosly talking about me. And after she left the other co-worker(also a girl) kept telling me how nice and pretty the new girl is. She kept asking me 4-5 times if I thought she was nice and pretty. I said I haven't talked to her so I don't know is she's nice. I never gave her a straight answer as to if I thought she was pretty though. She just wouldn't stop asking me what I thought of her. I think maybe the new girl got the other girl to ask me what I thought of her. Anyways I hoped I'm not being paranoid. Also what should I have said when the co-worker asked me if I thought the new girl was pretty?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well the title should be 'I know this girl likes me.'

Sje is obviously into you. I know lots of chicks that do the same thing to me, and I know they like me. lol.
 

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Oh man, so it's pretty much a sure thing that she likes me? Also BTW there's this other girl at work(HB5-6) whos definitly likes me too. I don't know what the he!! to do. After my little "fling" with my manager's daughter I know It's not a good idea to get involved with a co-worker but it'd be nice to date the HB8 and have my manager's daughter hear about it and get jealous or whatever. Also theres this other girl I work with who just got her BF a job there,so they now work together. What should I do about this new girl?
 

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How about you just work on being friends with people at work, instead of dating them?
 

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Yeah right- another friend is the last thing I need. Why pass this chance up to get with a HB8? Hopefully I'll be getting a better job anyway.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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08aisaac

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You aren't actually going to be friends with them, but I find that many times I will only try to befriend a girl, and then she will want to date me.

Be patient.

If you have friendly motives, it will be much easier to go do stuff with her.

So she will see how much of a fun guy you are, and then she will want to date you.

Well not exactly that, but pretty much that. you get my point?
 

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Or, she'll dump you in the friends zone and when you decide to make a move she will laugh and be all suprised because you are 'just a friend'. Girls think differently from guys like that, I bet even if you had a girl as just a friend for several years and she was hot enough you would still be happy enough to f**k her, but interact with a chick for just a couple of months as a friend and you are there forever. So don't take too long about it if you want to escalate things.. That was the last lesson I learned in RL with experience, I'm slowly getting there.
 

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Don't be stupid. You aren't actually friends if she wants to fukc your brains out. This girl likes you, so you aren't actually going to be friends, but if you make a friends approach, then it will be easier on your part. But I guess whatever approach you take will work.

Just depends on if you want to date her, which you say you do, or if you want to bang her or what?
 

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Don't even think about things like "dating co-workers is wrong". That's stupid. Date whoever you like. It's your life so live it:D

Oh and its pretty obvious she likes you. You should just use your intuition next time instead of rushing back here to ask others what they think
 

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I learned the hard way that you gotta make a move fast.

Think of it as a literal window of opportunity- and if you don't get through it fast enough, that window is gonna slam shut, right on your ****.:eek:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by StrangeButTrue
I learned the hard way that you gotta make a move fast.

Think of it as a literal window of opportunity- and if you don't get through it fast enough, that window is gonna slam shut, right on your ****.:eek:
Yup, I agree. Despite reading a bunch of this stuff on the forum I still learned it the hard way. It makes you look worse too, the girl will be thinking 'wow hes a wuss, he liked me and look how long it took him to make a move before I had to stick him in the friends zone.'
 

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A little update:

so today at work my co-worker asked me again if I thought the new girl was pretty and this time I asked her if this was just for her to know she said yes at first and then she admitted that her and the new girl want to know. I still didn't give her a straight answer and she started to get frustrated that I wouldn't just anwser her question. So I guess sometime soon I'll defintly have to talk to this new girl. Should I just ask her out on a date?
 

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they want to know if u like her ! LOL duh.

girls do this all the time. shes trying to hook her up with u.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by trans_am17
Great. So is there a specific way I should go about things?
talk to her, ****ing hell.

u dont even have to worry about the chance of the girl not likeing you. just ****ing talk, and ask her out.
 
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