You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
It is science. We are never as cool to others as we think we are. The more you chit chat on the phone, the more likely you are of talking her out of liking you. All we have to do is shut up, make dates, and escalate.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
1) You can still have success while doing something wrong
You're going to do what you want, but you're making a lot of mistakes. No one on here is surprised at this. She didn't kiss you because you talked her out of kissing you. She's not interested. Move on, read the DJ Bible, and stop doing the same thing expecting different results.Well, my last couple dates when well. Ended em' both with a kiss close and dated the one for a bit (made a topic on her--the chick that only wanted anal). This one, however, wasn't as good.
Convo was pretty good, she was flipping her hair, teasing me, and doing other nervous bullsh!t girls usually do when they're into you, but I didn't get the kiss at the end. I f*cked up because I got insecure after being rejected though, and texted her an inside joke: "You know, I don't ACTUALLY have herpes." To which she responded: "And you know all girls don't ACTUALLY kiss on the first date." Couldn't help but have a chuckle at that good ol' line. Even worse, after I told her I was only giving her a hard time, that I had fun and to drive safe, she then said "thanks again for drinks"
Oh God. Shut the f*ck up faggot. I've read the "DJ Bible" and have been on and off this site for 6+ years. I posted this as an update for educational purposes. Not everyone is going to like you, and not every date is going to play out exactly how you want it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Aw, is your ego so bruised you have to resort to insults?
You aren't applying anything from the DJ Bible. We are going off information you posted.
Work on your emotional self-control and your maturity. You will have more luck with women.