"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think the AW is fishing....

STR8UP

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I've posted about this chick before.

Known her for like 8 years, ruled her out pretty much immediately as g/f potential.

She's a year older than I am, she's attractive but not the kind of girl I'm interested in. I told myself I wouldn't rule out the possibility of fukking her, but at the same time i wouldn't put any effort into hitting it. I'm not desperate, and I wouldn't turn it down, but it isn't something I care to pursue either.

We go out once a week or so....she's fun to hang out with. We have a strong sexual vibe between us that makes EVERYONE assume that we are having sex, even though the most I've ever done was make out with her when I was under the influence.

Anyway, lately the subject of "us" hooking up (sex) came up, and she basically told me that one night she wanted it, but I left her behind so she went home. I remember the night very well....I could tell she was primed but she stopped to answer her phone and for some reason it pissed me off so I kept walking. She also said she is still interested, but she would have to have a few drinks cause she's "shy" when it comes to sex. WTF???

So lately I decided to push the envelope just to see how she would react. The other night I texted her some crazy sexual sh!t, basically telling her that if she wanted to cook me breakfast in the morning I would rock her world in the sack that night.

She didn't respond in a "receptive and playful" manner, but later that night she was with a friend and meet up with me and my friends at a club and we kept the sparks flying while she was there. She was out with a friend who has a sister who is dying of cancer, so she left early, but when she got home she texts me at 2:30am saying " stop thinking about me".

I was in a limo with a much younger chick rubbing up on me at that moment, so I didn't send the ball back into her court, but I probably could have made my way to her house if I wasn't "occupied" at that moment.

The next day I send her a text saying something about how it was HER who was thinking of ME that night, and that she missed the after party. She then invites me out for dinner.

After dinner we watched the movie Swingers at her place and got into a convo about relationships and BS, and how you can't seem too eager (which she adamantly disagreed with).

I went home and the next night at 11:30 she texts me "how are you", followed by "Oh sh!t. I forgot, that;s against the rules, I take that back."

Another part of our convo at her house was her hounding me about how many women I have had sex with, to which I told her it doesn't matter and I adopt a don't ask don't tell policy.

So it looks like she's feeling me out for "relationship potential". there is more to it that I won't go into cause I could type all night, but suffice to say i think she's wanting a relationship, which I do not.

Ahhhh....my crazy life.....
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"but when she got home she texts me at 2:30am saying " stop thinking about me"

Heh heh, typical AW shutdown tactic that to an uninitiated AFC would come across as eerie mind reading!

Fortunately you are no AFC and took back the power.

You probably should avoid actually hittin it though as there's no telling what kind of smear campaign she might go on towards you once she finds out you don't want a relationship with her crazy ass afterwards.
 

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Bro you have known this girl 8 years and have not fvcked her? If you didn't fvck her by now lets get serious your never going to fvck her. If this girl wanted to fvck you, you would have fvcked her already. You have to get better at reading IOI.

You should have at least made a move at her house while watching the movie. I still don't understand how a man past the age of 19 can be alone with a woman in a house and be attracted to the girl and not fvck her.
 

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lookyoung said:
You should have at least made a move at her house while watching the movie. I still don't understand how a man past the age of 19 can be alone with a woman in a house and be attracted to the girl and not fvck her.
Maybe you didn't read my post in its entirety, but I'm NOT hot for this chick.

She is physically attractive but she doesn't get my motor running, ya feel me?

I'm sure there are plenty of women you know who if they were to strip naked and spread their legs you wouldn't turn it down, but at the same time you aren't going to put any effort into it. This is the situation with this chick, it just so happens that we have known each other for a long time and we do things together or in a group pretty often.

I'm not a sex-zombie. I'm not a slave to my d!ck. I don't HAVE to try to fukk every woman I know to feel like a man.
 

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why are you making multiple threads about some woman who are aren't feeling?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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STR8UP it sounds like you're saying you would fvck her but you think she wants a relationship and you don't. And if you have sex with her then it'd ruin your friendship with her, which is probably true. So I think you'd rather keep the sexual tension up and the friendship going than hook up with her once or twice. Myself, I'd probably would of just went for it when she was alone together since I don't care for prolonged sexual tension.
 

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ketostix said:
STR8UP it sounds like you're saying you would fvck her but you think she wants a relationship and you don't. And if you have sex with her then it'd ruin your friendship with her, which is probably true. So I think you'd rather keep the sexual tension up and the friendship going than hook up with her once or twice. Myself, I'd probably would of just went for it when she was alone together since I don't care for prolonged sexual tension.
I actually think it's fun to tease her and vice versa.

Since I'm not emotionally attached and getting her naked isn't really important to me, I just go with the flow and have a good time. It just works.
 
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