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I think she's trying to control me with sex...

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I have to admit im not the horniest guy in the world. And i could care less if i got any action. Indeed it gives me all the power i need to walk away if i wanted to.

However the other day i banged this girl after receiving a 2nd invitation to come over. The first time was really late at night and i told her i couldnt make it. I guess she must've been horny. that day i wasnt really in the mood for sex but did it anyway to get it over with. it wasnt exactly mind blowing sex (not for me and probably not for her) since i wasnt horny.

So that morning i wake up and left, and i forgot my sweater due to other things on my mind. So she calls me up and tells me i forgot my sweater...i say "oh right...thats fine ill get it next time." she says "nah ill bring it to you on friday (tonight)" i say ok.

So anyway tonight before she left the house she said she was going to bring the sweater back to me, i said its fine since we'll be out late and ill probably walk her back home. But since she insisted, i said "ok if you want to bring it out thats fine, but i dont want you bring it out for no reason since ill probably be dropping you off at home since we'll be out late."

So anyway the night ends i do accompany her home (2 hr train ride back and forth). Before that she insisted it was ok that she could get home safe, i said its fine. Then a few stops before her place she mentioned i should get off and its fine. Then her stop came and since it appears she doesnt want me near her house. i just let her out there. im never doing that again...longest train ride of my life.

When she knows i could be pissed about something she hugs me like crazy. I could care less if i got any action tonight. Regardless if she wasnt in the mood for sex or using it to control me, it hurt. at least letting me know i could come up would put a smile on my face. Honestly if i wanted to treat her like shyt i could. But i wasnt brought up that way.

So im thinking our first time was just to let me get a taste. And now is the power struggle. I want to ***** at her about it, but honestly i dont think its worth it.

i think the next time she tries to invite me over, im just going to reject it...

thoughts?
 

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all women control men by using sex, or at least try.

sometimes , its all we have to offer.
 
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Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Whats up with all the girls on here lately this is a guy's forum.
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Maybe we're attracting them, obviously they know where all the real men are;)

It won't be long before this forum is crawling with hot women who were drawn to our don juan-ness....There may also be some homsosexuals but we can weed them out and send them on their way......or maybe just hand them over to DonJuanMonk and some of the other losers who probably like that kinda thing.
:rolleyes:
 

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Emperiorjack: Pen's been here forever and actually has constructive things to say.


ScrewIt: Bro, I read through your post twice, and I don't know if it's because I'm just tired but I'm not really seeing how she's trying to use sex to control you....it could have just been circumstantial BS....maybe she just wasn't in the mood, period, God knows what.

If it happens again, I'd think you have a valid concern. I wouldn't read too much into it quite yet ;)
 
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If you really don't care...forget about her. Come on, sex is great..but not the reason for being. lol

One of the funniest (and best) things I've ever done is after meeting and then a day later sleeping with a girl at her place..I get up at like four in the morning and start getting dressed..she says "Are you leaving?" and I respond "I just.....I just can't" and then I walked out. She was after me for six months HARDCORE. lol.

Put an obstacle between her and you. And when you have sex..make sure you want to...or at least make it great.

Life's to short for bad sex!
 
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Originally posted by ScrewIt
I have to admit im not the horniest guy in the world. And i could care less if i got any action. Indeed it gives me all the power i need to walk away if i wanted to.

However the other day i banged this girl after receiving a 2nd invitation to come over. The first time was really late at night and i told her i couldnt make it. I guess she must've been horny. that day i wasnt really in the mood for sex but did it anyway to get it over with. it wasnt exactly mind blowing sex (not for me and probably not for her) since i wasnt horny.

So that morning i wake up and left, and i forgot my sweater due to other things on my mind. So she calls me up and tells me i forgot my sweater...i say "oh right...thats fine ill get it next time." she says "nah ill bring it to you on friday (tonight)" i say ok.

So anyway tonight before she left the house she said she was going to bring the sweater back to me, i said its fine since we'll be out late and ill probably walk her back home. But since she insisted, i said "ok if you want to bring it out thats fine, but i dont want you bring it out for no reason since ill probably be dropping you off at home since we'll be out late."

So anyway the night ends i do accompany her home (2 hr train ride back and forth). Before that she insisted it was ok that she could get home safe, i said its fine. Then a few stops before her place she mentioned i should get off and its fine. Then her stop came and since it appears she doesnt want me near her house. i just let her out there. im never doing that again...longest train ride of my life.

When she knows i could be pissed about something she hugs me like crazy. I could care less if i got any action tonight. Regardless if she wasnt in the mood for sex or using it to control me, it hurt. at least letting me know i could come up would put a smile on my face. Honestly if i wanted to treat her like shyt i could. But i wasnt brought up that way.

So im thinking our first time was just to let me get a taste. And now is the power struggle. I want to ***** at her about it, but honestly i dont think its worth it.

i think the next time she tries to invite me over, im just going to reject it...

thoughts?
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If you could spot her on her game, you can be sure as hell that she IS trying to control you with sex.

In fact, this power struggle is going to last until she can get a firm grip on your desire to get off on her. Then, my friend, it's over.
 
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Originally posted by penkitten
all women control men by using sex, or at least try.

sometimes , its all we have to offer.
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That was one of the most profound things I have heard in a long time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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my thoughts are if she isn't your gf and you're just not interested in having sex with her when she wants to then just don't do it.
 
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