"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think she's hooked. you?

MOZIS

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K guys would you please tell me if I have this fish hooked ;p Like if you think she is interested from the fbook message convo alone. This is our inbox we exchanged.

Me: Yooooo
Jordan:hello? Remember me now. haha (saw her at club, pretended I forgot her but remembered her friend)
Me:Awww I didnt hurt you feelings.Did I?
Jordan: Haha. naah. I only met you once before; No big deal.
Me: Ok sure. yo your comin to da club dis saturday.
Jordan:If I can, I definitely will.
Me: Ok gimme ur number? All my numbers on my fone deleted randomly last night.So now I have room for stalkers like you to help blow up my ego ;-p Haha um naaaw no I can's, More like " YES SQHIZZEL! I WILL!!" lol
Jordan:What if I dont want to give you my number. You might end up stalking me ;p and if I didnt live forty miles away, id be like that. But I cant make any promises.haha.
Me: Haha ur gonna gimme ur number. Ok well it would be dope if you came.
Jordan:Well I just cant give it you. I have to make you work a little ;p
Me:Ok good job. Usually girls just gimme there numbers. But I respect that, tryna make me work hard. Buuuut I actually need to know if you can, otherwise I got shizz to do. Your coming baby!
Me: Be a good girl and say yes ;)
Jordan: Oh well I dont think I am this week:(Ill be sure to tell you when Im going :D
Me: Haha your really gonna ignore the number request?;p lol wooow
Jordan: :D haha, you've waited long enough. its 555 5555
Me: Good girl, we need to arrange a time to chill.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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(JJ)

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Always assume attraction. Assume it all the way up until she gets the restraining order. (Just teasing, that should never happen ha)

Your mindset should be "damn, look at all these girls that just can't wait to get with me." All kinds of positives come out of this thought process. Who do you have more confidence around? People who adore you? Or people who are indifferent towards/don't like you? Obviously the former. You immediately become more confident around girls that you think are into you.

Honestly, when I hang out with a group of people, I see IOI's constantly from every girl in the room. I think gay dudes are always hitting on me. I never even question it. It's just "ohp, I think that was a triple take from that girl on the street" or "that girl sure laughed a long time at that joke..." and then follow it up and see what happens.

It is what it is. "Belief is a wise wager. Granted that faith cannot be proved, what harm will come to you if you gamble on its truth and it proves false? If you gain, you gain all; if you lose, you lose nothing. Wager, then, without hesitation, that He exists." -Blaise Pascal.

This is a quote about religion, obviously, but at the same time it can easily apply here as well. Just change "He exists" to "She is in love with me." ha.


Now, I know, you weren't looking for a big long lecture. The short answer seems to be that, yea, she's interested.

However, as I told you, my thought is to always assume attraction ;)

Just keep it rolling and make it happen sir. :up:
 

J. Darko

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You're doing great. Go get her tiger! By the way, did you know that women get really wet from guys with good language skills? Like writing ''the'' instead of ''da''? And writing ''phone'' instead of ''fone''? And don't forget to write ''your'' instead ''ur''. I promise you, their vagina's will tickle when they see you write like that.

Good luck.
 

AlexLefty

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Seemed like you did a good job
although, the only thing that was going through my mind, no offense, was that you were kind of annoying. And what does "Haha um naaaw no I can's, More like " YES SQHIZZEL! I WILL!!" lol" mean? I didn't really get that part haha.

Since she didn't end up giving you her number, it seemed like she was getting a little annoyed as well, but that's just my opinion, gl
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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eaglez1177

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(JJ) said:
Always assume attraction. Assume it all the way up until she gets the restraining order. (Just teasing, that should never happen ha)

Your mindset should be "damn, look at all these girls that just can't wait to get with me." All kinds of positives come out of this thought process. Who do you have more confidence around? People who adore you? Or people who are indifferent towards/don't like you? Obviously the former. You immediately become more confident around girls that you think are into you.

Honestly, when I hang out with a group of people, I see IOI's constantly from every girl in the room. I think gay dudes are always hitting on me. I never even question it. It's just "ohp, I think that was a triple take from that girl on the street" or "that girl sure laughed a long time at that joke..." and then follow it up and see what happens.

It is what it is. "Belief is a wise wager. Granted that faith cannot be proved, what harm will come to you if you gamble on its truth and it proves false? If you gain, you gain all; if you lose, you lose nothing. Wager, then, without hesitation, that He exists." -Blaise Pascal.

This is a quote about religion, obviously, but at the same time it can easily apply here as well. Just change "He exists" to "She is in love with me." ha.


Now, I know, you weren't looking for a big long lecture. The short answer seems to be that, yea, she's interested.

However, as I told you, my thought is to always assume attraction ;)

Just keep it rolling and make it happen sir. :up:
Great post JJ. Ive always tried stressing this to people, because it truly does help with confidence and really makes you go out and be more active towards the chick. I mean you're not gonna get anywhere if you're constantly unsure if a girl likes you or not.
 
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