"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i think she's going to break up with me soon...

foomee

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I've been with this awesome girl for 2 months on the 10th, and I feel like she's going to break up with me soon. Well, one of her friends hates me. Basically I've stolen my gf from her. She wants to hang out with my gf, but when she comes to our college, she feels as if she doesn't know anyone here, including me... so she doesn't like visiting. And it just seems like sooner or later her friends will convince her that I'm not that right guy for her. She said she loves me about 3 weeks ago (yeah it's soon, but we're in college and we spend almost 18 hours a day with eachother and sleepover in eachothers dorms), and I think she loves her friends more than me. But yeah... is there anyway I can some how prevent this from happening? I know our relationship will end sooner or later, but does anyone have any advice to delaying the inevitable(sp)?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blinkwatt

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I've been with this awesome girl for 2 months on the 10th, and I feel like she's going to break up with me soon.
You sound like a girl,let them worry about anniversaries and such. We understand your antcipation and happiness but dont forget that you are a guy at the same time.

Well, one of her friends hates me. Basically I've stolen my gf from her. She wants to hang out with my gf, but when she comes to our college, she feels as if she doesn't know anyone here, including me... so she doesn't like visiting.
This matters because?... She is hanging out with you not her, remember women do what they want.

Hey buddy I noticed that no where in your post did you mention a bad vibe from her,so your good. Focus on her not around her. I have lost alot of good friends to ladies and that how it is,vica versa.
 

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Quit spending 18 hours a day together. Thats your first problem, its not healthy. Its natural that your going to break up because you will become sick of each other. You should only see her 2-3 times per week.

Go read the section in the bible that deals with dating and LTR. You need help or you will become AFC and come here crying how you miss her, blah blah blah.

If you start making yourself busy away from her, it will not only salvage your relationship but it will make her more attracted to you. Trust me, go read the bible for more help. An hour spent reading the bible will pay off in spades. Just skim through the titles for articles that relate to you.
 

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Is this guy doing anything right?

Doesn't seem like it.

18 hours per day? Wholly sh*t no wonder she wants to break up with you.

You need to get some hobbies going on in your life OUTSIDE HER. You're in college, so there's plenty for you to do. Join a sports team or a club, study more, go off campus and meet girls outside of your school, etc. etc.

There should be no reason her friend should hate you because you shouldn't be seeing her that much anyway!

Also, you're 19. I'm also 19. Girls at this age are stupid and immature. Tom Leykis reiterates the point that you shouldn't be in a serious relationship until you're 25. I agree with that to an extent. Don't become excessively emotionally attached right now.

It's not love. It's infatuation.
 

thederekeffect1

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(smack) snap out of it. Where the hell did you get the idea that she wants to break up with you? What did you read an article online that told you that you have to get along with the girls friends to have a successfull relationship? Are you one of those people? She's not going to break up with you just because her friend doesn't like you.

However, you might want to stop spending 18 hours a day with her. Wait, and you sleep over at each others dorms? So, basically, you don't spend a second away from her. You're around her 24 hours a day. I promise you - If she breaks up with you, it's not going to be because of her friend. Give her some breathing room, dude!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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