"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think my gf is a lesbian

Dhoulmagus

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I think she hides it through unreasonable homophobia. How does someone that claims to be liberal be anti gay and attend a religious christian university? She says she always skips chapel and doesn't like the people there, but she won't leave. She comes from a close knit conservative family her dream is to pretty much mirror them. I think is forces her in her mind to reject her lesbian sexual thoughts. Hence she does not want to be a lesbian.

The biggest indicator is sex. She is turned off by penis lol. She doesn't like it when I leave it out or finish. She will not give me a bj or hj that lasts more than 8 seconds. She even tightens and dries up during penal intercourse. Usually with other girls they loosen up eventually. What does turn her on is oral, fingering, and grinding. She will literally get off to just grinding on my leg. Plus, she is pretty much asexual. When I first met her it had been 6 months before she last had sex and she was extremely tight. If she had it her way than I think there would be no sex in the relationship at all lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mister.ritenow

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Dhoulmagus said:
I think she hides it through unreasonable homophobia. How does someone that claims to be liberal be anti gay and attend a religious christian university? She says she always skips chapel and doesn't like the people there, but she won't leave. She comes from a close knit conservative family her dream is to pretty much mirror them. I think is forces her in her mind to reject her lesbian sexual thoughts. Hence she does not want to be a lesbian.

The biggest indicator is sex. She is turned off by penis lol. She doesn't like it when I leave it out or finish. She will not give me a bj or hj that lasts more than 8 seconds. She even tightens and dries up during penal intercourse. Usually with other girls they loosen up eventually. What does turn her on is oral, fingering, and grinding. She will literally get off to just grinding on my leg. Plus, she is pretty much asexual. When I first met her it had been 6 months before she last had sex and she was extremely tight. If she had it her way than I think there would be no sex in the relationship at all lol.
I know this is a dpressing idea, but have you considered that she may have been the victim of sexual assault? Some girls react very negatively towards sexual contact in those instances. I'm no expert, just figured I'd put it out there because I dated a girl in that position several years back.
 

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mister.ritenow said:
I know this is a dpressing idea, but have you considered that she may have been the victim of sexual assault? Some girls react very negatively towards sexual contact in those instances. I'm no expert, just figured I'd put it out there because I dated a girl in that position several years back.
I don't think she was. I sure hope not.
 
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