i Think its over for me

[Sayajin_Prince]

guys ive been dating this girl for 8 months in the beggining everything was cool and fun, i noticed that this girl was really interested in me, she made time for me, she admired me, she liked to be with me i sensed that...

...as i sense that the end is near. in the last 3 months since january i became unemployed ( im 26 and she is 16, please dont flame me, i really love and admire this girl, and never intended to abuse her). The thing my life became very complicated, no job, no money, i became very nervous and depressed because of the situation and i started being a little aggressive with her, i guess i passed my situation to her when i now have the feeling that i shouldnt have done it.

2 weeks after easter holidays, she started to became different, cold, distant, she wouldnt go out with me, she would pass an entire day without saying nothing to me, not even a sms, and when i would call her on that she said that it was my impression, that i was imagining things, that she loves me but i know deep inside that she sees me somewhat different.


Its kinda difficult to put what i feel in here, but its a sense of emptiness and frustration, when u try to put some effort and the other person just ignores you and keeps saying that she loves you. Another thing that ****ed up my relationship with her is that she told her parents that she was dating an older guy and they started putting pressure on her to dump me. Ive been with her tuesday and she was really cool with me she kissed me, hugged me, but it was just like much smoke and no fire at all if you know what i mean. We started as friends and we eventually developed greater feelings for the other, but our relationship soon became too physical, we used to talk about everything and suddenly we just hang out only to have psysical contact ( she's still a virgin, i respected her wishes ) ....

I asked her out today so we can talk about what's happening and to take a decision for the future. I dont know if i should call it quits already or if i should keep trying, give her some time to see if she misses me ( she came up with that on an msn convo the other day )

please gimme some feedback


thanks in advance

 

[Iguana]

Haha, I've been dating this girl for just a week and I already feel she's acting like your girl lol.

Dude...I really don't know what to tell you, just don't think about it, DON'T THINK ABOUT IT!!!!! Relax, do some sports, hang out with friends but don't talk about her or think about the situation. And if you really feel uncomfortable or are suffering to much, then I guess you should next her.

Iguana
Peace & Metal

 

[flyinshark]

Just some quick thoughts...

Could the fact that u became unemployed have something to do with your relationship problems? Yeah, you passed your frustration on her, but maybe there's more to it...

I've seen this a few times before, where a girl would stop being interested in a guy if he loses his job. She's 16, so maybe materialism isn't that well anchored in her head, but i think there's a good chance it might be.

And oh, i haven't even mentioned anything about the age difference. In my opinion, this is a HUGE factor as for why this relationship might not work out. I am not flaming you, as i know u guys have (or had) good chemistry, but such age difference at a younger age can kill a relationship, imo. Not to mention her parents' influence, which could be a determining factor.

Quick advice: Give her a few days off. Don't contact her, unless u really have to. Let her miss u a bit... If she wants to stay with u, she will let u know.

 

[frivolousz21]

maybe you can use some of ur super Sayian powers to fix this!

1. she is 16 man, you are 26???

if you lived in the United States you would get no repsect and mocked and laughed at.

(she is a child basically) when I was 20 I dated a 16 yr old..almost 17..and I still got flamed for it..by her parents, my friends, my family. she was ****ing hot..i coudlnt resist.

anyways....


the best thing you can do..is let it go...she isnt going to marry you, you havent even slept with her?? stop being DELUSIONAL!

you are grown MAN! you need to get ur life together first off, then date women who want a man...u are dating a little girl. you say 8 months? was she 15 when u hooked up?


am I completely off here??? maybe 16 in foriegn countries is ok? but 16 yr olds here are kids!

 

[Sayajin_Prince]

yes man she was 15, but i told, i never lacked respect on her, just happened i became her friend and it happened. so u guys think i should next her?

 

[padrote]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
if you lived in the United States you would get no repsect and mocked and laughed at.

... and sent to jail.

 

[Sayajin_Prince]

edit: i called a friend of a her some days ago to ask her what was happening with my g/f and she told me to forget her "just forget her it will be better to both of you" and " dont want her to have pity for you "

 

[squirrels]

When you were cool and fun, she was attracted to you.

When you had no money and could no longer afford to have fun, and got all nervous and self-conscious, she became less attracted to you.

It's really that simple. She's 16, dude. She's not rationalizing this...she's going on how she feels.

She's a f**king KID, man. You can't sit down and "work things out." She isn't dating you to "work things out" right now...she wants to have FUN with the OLDER GUY.

Unless you want to go through 2 more years of this sh!t, then have to put up with the college experience and hope she doesn't fall for some young stud while she's away from you, then you should just sign off peacefully and end the relationship on good terms.

Don't you have more important things to worry about now? Like paying your BILLS?? You're obviously not in the mental, financial, or emotional state to be raising kids, much less DATING them.

 

[yunghova35]

What in the HELL can a 16 year old VIRGIN do you for that an older (sexual) woman can’t? Why where you even being friends with a 15 year old? I think you may have deeper issues man

And it’s been three mouths get a fuggin job you pedophile.

 

[dearsappho]

Thats harsh man...leave the guy alone. We all make mistakes in life. Calling him a paedo isnt on.

Obviously theres no future dating a 16 year old. You think she is gonna commit her life at that age?

Get out and rebuild your life. Its an excellent opportunity to do so.

 

[christz]

damn man 16 year old child, that's friggin insane your damn near 30 and your screwing around with kids?

date girls your age cheif, and these immature problems can be understood better by a likeminded ADULT

 

[PRMoon]

I think there's just too much of an age gap here, and I speak from experience

I knew a 27 year old who was trying to carry on a relatiohship with a 16 year old. They had made all kinds of plans about how they were going to get married and move to hawaii (where he was from) get a house have kids and live happily ever after. This guy didn't lose his job or anything but the same thing kinda happened to him. She stopped talking to him at some point and they just kind of fell apart.

Fact of the matter is 16 year old girls don't know what the hell they want. They say one thing one second but (and with due justice) change their mind entirely the next. No matter how well built up maturity wise they seem, they're still underdeveloped mentally and can be very fickle about these types of things. They don't understand gravity of situations nor can they comprehend this gravity.

The girl I was referring to in the above paragraphs started seeing other guys while they were together, which was kind of a catalyst for the demise of their ill fated relationship. Again something that 16 year old girls do, cause they're so young. Not saying the same thing is happneing to you, but it'd be something I'd concider. Asking her if there's someone else probably won't get you a legit awnser (then again it might) but she could be lying, which gets you no where.

I'd say move on like your friends told you to do. It'd just be smarter for you to be with someone who's willing and able to engage you on a level that's more your own.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by flyinshark

I've seen this a few times before, where a girl would stop being interested in a guy if he loses his job. She's 16, so maybe materialism isn't that well anchored in her head, but i think there's a good chance it might be.

That seems more a responsibility issue to me than an issue of materialism. There's no way I'd let myself stay unemployed for that long, unless I began running my own business instead.

 

[California Love]

Girls Just Wanna Have Fun - Cyndi Lauper

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

The Prince is looking for a princess! Throughout time men always pursued and married woman in their teens - even younger than 16 - so this is not out of the ordinary! You cannot compare women from other cultures to American women - there are 13 year old's having babies and abortions - they are 13 going on 40!!

Your girl is a virgin and she may be saving herself for the right one - I don't know; however, currently she is most likely seeing other ddues!!! Do not contact her again unless she initiates and to preserve your mental state do not expect anything long term to come out of this!!! Move on and upgrade to a 15 year old.

 

[skeeloo]

26 year old guys like you should stop dating kids and face the future, its guys like you that make these 16 year old kids bold enough to talk down to grown up dudes its like these kids dont know thier place and its up to guys like you to put them where they belong. whats this world comming to when a 15 year old girl thinks im on thier level. you better man up and leave that kid.

 

[SageOFAllenAge]

Okay so you have a younger chick.

But imagine this .. the day your chick was born, a newborn coming into the world innocently sleeping in the maternity ward & you were the 10 y.o boy staring through the glass, giving her a look that's just not right ..

Haha j/k I tell that to all the guys I know that have extremely chicks & girls that are dating really old guys