I think i'm lacking "it"

[BudLight85]

Hey guys, I just figured i'd post this question for you all to take a gander at I suppose. It sort of hit me last night that I don't think I have that whole "it" factor I guess you could say about getting women. I'll list some of my positives. This post is somewhat long.

-going to college for physical therapy, and doing quite well at the moment
-work out 4 days a week, competitive powerlifter
-good social life, know a good amount of people at my school (just transferred here this semester)
-good rep, people have a good time when they're with me
-independent, I do things sometimes despite if I have anyone to do them, I do things I want to do
-decent-good looking, i'm not a 10 by a long shot, but i'm not a troll
-good sense of style, again I don't rock out all the best trends and expensive stuff, but I have a nice comfortable style
-good sense of humor
-very confident in my abilities
-just turned 21 a few weeks ago, so yay booze lol

Theres a few positive things about myself. The thing that I haven't quite been able to figure out is having "it". There are also some negative things. My roommate for one. His side of the room is absolutely disgusting, and if I bring girls back they gripe about how his side is gross. Its pretty embarassing. Plus I was put in a transfer dorm, which means that I was basically with a bunch of people who also didn't know the ins and outs of my school, so it was hard initially to meet people. But I did a decent job at it. But I just don't have that aura about me, even though I'm the one who has good social skills and lets people know about what things are goin on that night. I also have good conversation skills outside of a party setting as well, i'm not a complete stiff.

I just feel as though I don't have that one missing piece. I don't have that strong social aura, even though I know a lot of people. I'm also somewhat short (5'10"). I think I just need to brushen up on a few things, but if guys got any tips to help me out, it would be greatly appreciated. I think my main question is how do i get to be that guy? Not necessarily the life of the party persay, but just that guy that knows how to have a good time and everyone knows about him. Any help would be appreciated.

Jay

P.S....I have read some of the DJ Bible, but I figured i'd get more opinions asking it through the forums.

 

[Docs]

Social aura, find some really outgoing bros to hang out with. I found that that's the best way to increase your own socialness. I'm shorter then you (5'9"), but I have no problem talking to people taller then me. Basically, if you present an open personality and display it, people will want to get to know you.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

Begin by stopping to try to be "that guy."

Stop worrying and start being.

 

[Yapper]

5'10'' isn't short at all...

 

[Silkandsteel]

Haha! I'm 5'7" mate and I have never been remotely bothered about my height, ever it doesn't factor into anything really. It's about how you present what you've got. Man, you're 5'10" and a powerlifter...sort out your CONFIDENCE and you're home free