"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think i'm lacking "it"

BudLight85

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Hey guys, I just figured i'd post this question for you all to take a gander at I suppose. It sort of hit me last night that I don't think I have that whole "it" factor I guess you could say about getting women. I'll list some of my positives. This post is somewhat long.

-going to college for physical therapy, and doing quite well at the moment
-work out 4 days a week, competitive powerlifter
-good social life, know a good amount of people at my school (just transferred here this semester)
-good rep, people have a good time when they're with me
-independent, I do things sometimes despite if I have anyone to do them, I do things I want to do
-decent-good looking, i'm not a 10 by a long shot, but i'm not a troll
-good sense of style, again I don't rock out all the best trends and expensive stuff, but I have a nice comfortable style
-good sense of humor
-very confident in my abilities
-just turned 21 a few weeks ago, so yay booze lol

Theres a few positive things about myself. The thing that I haven't quite been able to figure out is having "it". There are also some negative things. My roommate for one. His side of the room is absolutely disgusting, and if I bring girls back they gripe about how his side is gross. Its pretty embarassing. Plus I was put in a transfer dorm, which means that I was basically with a bunch of people who also didn't know the ins and outs of my school, so it was hard initially to meet people. But I did a decent job at it. But I just don't have that aura about me, even though I'm the one who has good social skills and lets people know about what things are goin on that night. I also have good conversation skills outside of a party setting as well, i'm not a complete stiff.

I just feel as though I don't have that one missing piece. I don't have that strong social aura, even though I know a lot of people. I'm also somewhat short (5'10"). I think I just need to brushen up on a few things, but if guys got any tips to help me out, it would be greatly appreciated. I think my main question is how do i get to be that guy? Not necessarily the life of the party persay, but just that guy that knows how to have a good time and everyone knows about him. Any help would be appreciated.

Jay

P.S....I have read some of the DJ Bible, but I figured i'd get more opinions asking it through the forums.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Social aura, find some really outgoing bros to hang out with. I found that that's the best way to increase your own socialness. I'm shorter then you (5'9"), but I have no problem talking to people taller then me. Basically, if you present an open personality and display it, people will want to get to know you.
 

Teflon_Mcgee

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Begin by stopping to try to be "that guy."

Stop worrying and start being.
 

Silkandsteel

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Haha! I'm 5'7" mate and I have never been remotely bothered about my height, ever it doesn't factor into anything really. It's about how you present what you've got. Man, you're 5'10" and a powerlifter...sort out your CONFIDENCE and you're home free ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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