I think I'm a magician 'cause I make interest disappear

[DonGiovanni]

When I first talk to a girl everything is usually good. shell show interest but when I show interest all of hers like vanishes in thin air. Whats the reason why?

 

[Borknagar]

flakiness is a common problem. It's probably not your fault unless you became boring, or something. My suggestion? Get it all out of your system by ****ing them asap, so then ya don't feel so bad. I got a girl flaking me right now, and I don't care cause I ****ed her already so no big deal.

Women wonder why we wanna **** em so fast? well mayyyybe if they didn't flake in .05 seconds we wouldn't be in such a rush!

Honestly, like I always say, womens problems with men are just the outcome of their behaviors men deal with over and over again.

 

[DonGiovanni]

I would do that but im dangerously close to oneitis because i wanna LTR the afc mentality is returning to me slowly.

 

[blueline]

How can you get oneitis if you haven't slept with her yet?

 

[SandHawk]

How can you get oneitis if you haven't slept with her yet?

Go talk to a major bunch of AFCs, they'll can tell you how much they get hung up on a girl that doesn't even show them that much interest. For such a girl, all it takes is a kind smile or a listening ear and the AFC is madly in love. In fact, some of these guys turn into major stalkers and creepers.

I'm not entirely sure what happens in OPs case though. Are you having oneitis with a girl? Or are you craving for a relationship?

In the first case: Get it over with. Either make a move and get blown off(or get lucky and get laid) or just go forget about her by deleting contact details and never respond to any of her attempts to contact you.

As for the second case: Yea, you're probably boring as f*ck. Go read the DJ Bible and learn it by heart. Read the Book of Pook, and learn it by heart. Become an interesting person by starting to do things that YOU think are interesting. Make a list of things you dislike about yourself, and how you want to them to be. Pin this list somewhere you can see it and work on it.

Hit the gym, or any other sports that allows you to grow muscles(like climbing motherf*cking mountains). Find an interesting hobby that expands your social circle and skills. Drop focusing on chicks, talk to the men too(Girls will notice if you never talk to dudes) so you can use them for both social proof and improving your social skills. Experiment with kino, body language, posture, gestures, comfort zones. Read the book "How to win friends and influence people".

Have people talk about THEM to you, instead of talking about YOU to THEM. The best conversationalists are people who let others talk about themselves and keep asking questions. I am well aware that it's sometimes really annoying if someone never pops a question back, but if you want to f*ck them so hard that their spine will have an extra bend in it, you let them do the talk and rip on whatever they tell you in a ****y and funny way.

If you crave for an LTR, stop being a whiney b*tch. Most relationships are nothing more co-dependant things, because people never take the time to see if they match and if they're compatible. If you so badly crave for an LTR, you're going to end up in an LTR that's a worthless piece of sh*t that is just a waste of your time. Spin plates, and a girl isn't entitled to call it a relationship until she's proven that she is worth being exclusive with you. You're prince charming, you are the best person in the world(although I'm still better than you, and I always will ).

Make a plan on where you want to be in 6 months when it comes to socialization. If you mention an LTR on that piece of paper, I'll personally come over to your house and b*tchslap you so hard, that the slap-wave will go back in time and b*tchslap all your ancestors before it slaps you.

Now go out there and WORK ON YOURSELF. Be the best person you can be.

 

[blueline]

Seriously, you are going to feel SO MUCH better if you do not get into a relationship, because as the previous poster already mentioned, most relationships are merely these co-dependent things between two people who aren't exactly compatible (aka you are better off single).

 

[slaog]

When I first talk to a girl everything is usually good. shell show interest but when I show interest all of hers like vanishes in thin air. Whats the reason why?

Your mindset. You're putting them on pedestals and for women that translates as you being needy or basically begging. That is a major turnoff.


A major turn-on for women is men who are hard to get. You should be a hard to get prize or at least a man who doesn't beg women to get into a relationship with him. Being hard to get with women you like will go against your current instincts because currently you're programmed like an AFC.

 

[Lucifero]

I think I'm a magician 'cause I make interest disappear

:crackup:

 

[Alle_Gory]

cause I make interest disappear

That's an awesome skill to have sometimes. So what kinds of girls do you normally pursue, and when do they lose interest? What kinds of things do you do or say in the weeks (or days) before they lose interest?

I've found that telling an unwanted girl to fvck off and get lost usually backfires and they become MORE annoying.