I think I may be co-dependent

[Jifto]

My last "relationship" was with a girl that many others have diagnosed on here as BPD. I won't get into all the reasons they made that determination, but I don't think I'm in any position to diagnose her or label her as such.

What I can say with confidence is that she was a rotten person and treated me like crap. Whether you want to call that BPD or any other phrase you want, doesn't matter. She was awful.

The only thing worse than her was me. I was the one that put up with it. I was the one that let myself spend my time with someone like that. I was the one that took so long to break it off.

Now I'm meeting higher quality women, dismissing women that have traits that remind me of her, etc. The problem is that I don't feel the same draw. I don't feel the same connection and excitement.

I think I may be codependent. Looking back on my relationships, I've often been drawn the hardest to the most f'd up people. Now I have very little interest for normal, healthy women. It's totally f'd.

Anyway out of this?

 

[sazc]

first step is self awareness, so bravo. look back on the past behavior and figure out where you failed. These are your new standards. These standards are items you refuse to compromise, bend, acquiesce or overlook moving forward.
Now hold your females to those standards.

 

[Billtx49]

The only thing worse than her was me. I was the one that put up with it. I was the one that let myself spend my time with someone like that. I was the one that took so long to break it off.

It happens when you get emotionally attached to a girl whether or not she's right in the head, but doesn't mean that you're codependent, it means you stayed too damm long…
And yes, being in bed with a crazy is hard to top, but it can be done.