"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I think I made a bad decision

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Hey. I just got back with my ex tonight. I broke up with her. We have been apart for a month and a half. Lately I have been dating a girl, giril B, and I can tell she likes me. My ex, gf now, talked tonight for about an hour and a half and long story short I ended up getting back together with her. I am split between these two girls. My gf, girl A, went hay wire which is why I ended it with her. I think I'm missing out at a chance with the girl B. A said she will fix what I don't like about her, I accepted that. I know, I know, now that I think back on it I'm not so sure about it, but I like the past good times we had. B and I have a lot in common which I like and we get along great. But I don't look forward to telling B about my gf. What would you do?

Edit: Nothing has been said about mine and girl B's relationship between us.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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JMooney5115 said:
Hey. I just got back with my ex tonight. I broke up with her. We have been apart for a month and a half. Lately I have been dating a girl, giril B, and I can tell she likes me. My ex, gf now, talked tonight for about an hour and a half and long story short I ended up getting back together with her. I am split between these two girls. My gf, girl A, went hay wire which is why I ended it with her. I think I'm missing out at a chance with the girl B. A said she will fix what I don't like about her, I accepted that. I know, I know, now that I think back on it I'm not so sure about it, but I like the past good times we had. B and I have a lot in common which I like and we get along great. But I don't look forward to telling B about my gf. What would you do?

Edit: Nothing has been said about mine and girl B's relationship between us.
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Who do you share more chemistry with? Which girl makes you want to get it on? What are your motives here? Do you want something long term and substantial or do you want to just "see where this goes"?

I don't need to tell you that you're not being fair to either girl. Neither knows about the other and thinks she has you all to herself. Eventually, you'll have to decide (that is if they don't find out first and leave you for lying).

As for what I'd do (I'm female btw), I'd choose the one that makes me go weak in the knees. I am a firm believer in raw chemistry. If it's powerful, nothing will keep me away (well almost nothing). But hey, that's just me.
 
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I think maybe its not time to choose yet. Purple haze is a girl so ofcourse she is going to say choose. But you are not in a posittion yet to put all your eggs in one basket. Thats when the girl is not going to see you as valuable anymore. This because when you drop the other your behavior will change. you will poor all you energy into the one girl and she will see you as needy and not a challenge. The time hasnt come yet shes not ready yet. don't feel bad. in thend both relationships are probably benefiting from having the other girl
 
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I think maybe its not time to choose yet. Purple haze is a girl so ofcourse she is going to say choose. But you are not in a posittion yet to put all your eggs in one basket. Thats when the girl is not going to see you as valuable anymore. This because when you drop the other your behavior will change. you will poor all you energy into the one girl and she will see you as needy and not a challenge. The time hasnt come yet shes not ready yet. don't feel bad. in thend both relationships are probably benefiting from having the other girl
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Well he can keep them both in the dark, but then he has to realize that neither will want him if he's found out (or acknowlege that this is a possibility). So by lying to both, he is gambling...he may end up with neither.

Do you object to him informing both of the situation and telling them that he'd like to see where things go (meaning, he'd like to see both of them). Again, one or both may be annoyed and leave because she feels cheated or lied to. Then again, they may not care.
 
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iTS worth the risk right now if he comits to one he might lose that one as well by smothering her. better to let things play out. he should only subtly reveal that there is someone else interested if she has other options she is considering as well.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your ex is an ex for a reason. Why do you want to pass up on making some new great memories with a wonderful new gal in exchange for a girl who disrespected you or bored you in the past to the point of you breaking up with her?

You left her for a reason, I guarantee she didn't have a life altering epiphany in the last month & a half and is going to be different. She might put on her nice face for 2 weeks or 2 months but I guarantee you the reason you left will be back in no time.

Go after girl B, but its too soon to be exclusive with her, so start looking for girl C-H in the meantime as well until you know them well enough to consider letting them tie you down in a relationship.
 
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Girl A does know about girl B. Me and A are exclusive right now so she will probably put it on facebook for girl B to see. If I put all my eggs in girl A's basket I don't think she will leave. She seems too attached. Girl A cried so much last night I don't know how to let her know that I feel this way without hurting her. How would I tell her?
 
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