"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think I have a bad case of One-itis...

Colossus

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JonJack said:
When you come to understand and accept the fact that she's just not the right type of girl for you at this point in time, it would be so much easier on you in letting go and moving on to other girls and other things.

If you ever feel you still want her, then you better want her for who she is and what she does, and not for what you want her to be and what you want her to do.
That should be cannonized. I appreciate your perspective...that really hit home for me. I think you understand where I'm at and I can see now how simple it is. She is just not the right girl for me at this time in life. :rockon:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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COLOSUS: You can slowly and painfully pull a bandaid from your skin, feeling every pull and every hair comeout by the root. Or you can quickly whip the bandaid off and be done with it in one swipe.

Either way, the bandaid IS coming off and it's going to hurt.
 
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