You know, I often have the same thoughts. I have had pretty much no success, most of the chicks I talk to some how happen to be young, like early 20s for examples, so obviously seeing some on and have a family. I am not very out going. I am pretty much an introvert, a thinker. I used to think perhaps my social skills where stunted, and perhaps the introductions are, but once Im comfortable I start talking, joking and playing and so on. I think often times a more aggressive chick (those are hard to come by as it is) gives me a chance and only later do I realize what happened and its too late. Im usually labeled gay or something.
When I work around an attractive lady I'm interested in, I wait for an excuse to talk to her. Or I hear she is married, or taken or something only to find out a buddy got to "pop her top" so to speak and I'm like, WTF!? i thought she was taken and he's like, so did I?
I don't really socialize or go out or drink or party or anything. Only recently have I realized I do have a small social circle at work forming and perhaps this is the best way for me as the girls that I do manage to talk to are taken (though I am starting to suspect one is perhaps not as taken as it seems, not that she is sleeping around, that I know of, but her demeanor) but what ever. Perhaps this will lead to an "after work party" where their out side of work friends will be there and allow a friend from work to introduce me.
One of my guy friends has pretty much figured out I am having trouble meeting someone. Telling me I just need to get out there. Sure, but its hard to make rapport with a stranger and I don't get out anyway that often.
Yeah, I think about giving up completely on this myself. Especially the speed seduction part. I almost want to take my time getting to know someone, make it a game like chess or Stratego, without the timer. Really hard for me to do when you have 30 seconds to make a move...
