I think I discovered the best way to socialize with people

[bigdave17]

just focus on making them feel extremely comfortable around you while you socialize with them.

how to do this
- don't try to impress them
- be extremely genuine (go in wanting nothing from the interaction)
- pay 100% undivided attention to them
- feel very comfortable yourself around them.

its crazy how powerful this is. This is what I've been focusing on at my job recently and I close customers at a crazy rate because people feel super comfortable around me. This triggers all their positive mental mechanisms to say "yes" because they trust me and like me immensely

I don't think this works around females because they're basically a mutant subspecies and none of their behavior works based on any logic but at least you can make friends very easily and have great success at work if your job is based on sales or relationship building of any kind.

 

[Serenity]

I don't think this works around females

Of course this works around females. When most guys become completely socially inept before a woman who's even slightly interested they really appreciate a man who can just act normal.

Acting differently to women is one of the major reasons they get turned off. Acting indifferently like it's just a normal comfortable situation makes everything easier, including women.

 

[bigdave17]

Of course this works around females. When most guys become completely socially inept before a woman who's even slightly interested they really appreciate a man who can just act normal.

Acting differently to women is one of the major reasons they get turned off. Acting indifferently like it's just a normal comfortable situation makes everything easier, including women.

hmmm


in any case, when I focus on just that, I find that people like me very much naturally without me having to do much

 

[elunium]

Thanks for this

 

[fanatic22]

Yep, one of the key principles espoused by Dale Carnegie in "How to Win Friends and Influence People". People think the world revolves around themselves and when you appear to acknowledge that, they love you for it.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Not pissing off the person you're dealing with its an amazing first step, everyone knows it yet very few remember it.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Actually appearing 100% nonjudgmental and comfortable around women PLUS showing strength and assertiveness works best

Non judmental is a must, even better if you can pretend you actually agree with them no matter how sick or insane their opinions are.

 

[Mike32ct]

And don’t ask them a ton of questions. Yes, people like to talk about themselves, but don’t turn it into an interview. At least space out your questions so it doesn’t feel like a interview lol.

 

[flowtheory]

And don’t ask them a ton of questions. Yes, people like to talk about themselves, but don’t turn it into an interview. At least space out your questions so it doesn’t feel like a interview lol.

True. I found the most effective way is to ask them a personal question which they elaborate on, naturally. Then I simply stoke their thoughts on that topic by taking one of their thoughts and framing in to something which I can personally relate to and speak more about the idea of that topic, as when we talk about ideas rather than events or people our brains almost become boundless. Asking question after question and pretending they have ALL the knowledge is actually boring for both people and the conversation will go up in flames pretty quick.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Big Dave. You been making this 110% more difficult than it is. Right now you need to be getting your D1ck wet .In Chicago you could be cleaning up and tapping multiple babes a week . But you must get your dyck wet. Females can sense when your not getting puzzy . And when you are, others will want to fvck. That's how it is. Right now just worry about fvcking babes or a babe who chooses you. From there your game will rise .

 

[logicallefty]

And don’t ask them a ton of questions. Yes, people like to talk about themselves, but don’t turn it into an interview. At least space out your questions so it doesn’t feel like a interview lol.

This^. Too many questions too fast from someone bugs the crap out of me. I start to question their agenda and start thinking about how much they are wasting my time. Often times people who drill you with 1 million questions are looking to hear answers that put you in a light That is relatively negative compared to their own. So then they can internally gloat.