Not posting this for advice, just hoping it gets a few laughs! This woman is LQ and I'm not pursuing her.
Back story: I'll keep it short. She's HB7, young, FWB for a couple months, I got oneitis and went AFC, she started bonin alphas, I finally realised I had oneitis and had become AFC again, I immediately ended all intimacy. Now, she's my housemates best friend (which is how I met her) and so I have to see her a LOT. With this in mind I opted to be friends with her. It helps that I quickly ejected from my AFC craft. I decided to have some fun with it and see if it was possible to recover from lost attraction.
So she's young, attractive and on the **** carousel. Fair play to her, I got no beef, but once my feelings started up, had to eject. When I called it off she cried and said she didn't want it to end etc, etc. I told her I had feelings for her and that if she wanted to stop hopping on any **** that'd have her, I'd continue to see her. She declined this offer and so I said it would be better if we stayed friends since I live with her best friend. Initially she said if that's all that's on offer then I decline but eventually realised that would be kind of awkward since she's at MY HOUSE a lot. My house is in caps because she's a guest in my home, a fact I pointed out to her.
So after this, I started looking back at our relationship and analysing in painful detail all the AFC **** I did, but also trying to figure out why I got oneitis for this girl. What I found out, was that I had missed a whole load of red flags that she was LQ and that I really had no reason to be so into her. She told me once in bed that "You've been a good boy, so we can have sex". This one line became the cornerstone of my understand of this girl. (I say girl very consciously) Both her sisters are married to rich men and she comes from a wealthy family. Her mum is also a ***** who cheats on her husband.
I'm probably the first guy who's ever turned her down for sex. This seems to have gotten the hamster spinning again after I pulled the plug. We were talking about being friends and that we could still hang out and stuff, which honestly I'm fine with because she is fun to be around, despite her flaws. She said, yeah maybe we could be friends with benefits. At this point, I was almost going to do it. I'd mostly moved past my oneitis and only just started spinning plates, so haven't been getting laid. In the end I decided not to. I had to stick to my frame.
Thus begun the games. I'm not sure what made me think she'd just be cool with being friends, I guess it's because I assumed I'd killed all the attraction. She continued to allude to hooking up with me, saying things like "oh we probably shouldn't drink together, might end up jumping you". I would reply with things like "Don't worry about that, I have self control.". Just basically dismissing her attempts to control me with her sexuality. This is when I noticed the hamster spinning.
Now I'm going to stop here with a disclaimer: This is not an advice thread. Everything I'm doing is for my own amusement, not to achieve anything. I might sleep with this girl IF I FEEL LIKE IT, but I probably won't and a relationship of any kind is way off the cards.
So, I continue to attempt the friendship but she's giving me a lot of drama. Hot/cold, weirdness etc. I decided that even though I was going to be friends with her, I was going to try and mess with her controlling behavior. Considering we're just friends, it led to some interesting behavior.
So I attempt to set up our first hang out as friends, a game of pool (which she hates). She agreed and I contact her late in the week, say I've been busy and ask her to hang out the following day. She says she's coming to my house but that I should ask my housemate if we can go to the pub. I tell her I wasn't organising her plans for her but that we could hang for a bit while she was around. Then she said well maybe we can hang next week during the week, maybe. (The multiple maybes are important). I said MAYBE we can. When she was around, I went and hung out with her and my housemate for about 20 minutes and went back to my room to do work. I was friendly, held eye contact and was my normal ****y/confident self. She knocked on my door and stood in the doorway and said, I'm going now. I said cool story hansel (something she used to say ALL the time when we were seeing each other) to which she got noticeably annoyed and said fine, I'm never saying goodbye to you again. I said, sounds great and held eye contact with a ****y smile on my face.
Fast forward to the following Friday. My plans for the night fell through so I text her in the afternoon when I found out my other plate had cancelled and said something along the lines of "hey, my plans fell through. lets have drinks and some games of pool tonight." She replied very shortly I have plans tonight and I'm busy over the weekend, have a good one. Definitely getting a reaction from her which is what I wanted. I replied with "Okay, cool" and haven't text her since. She came around to my place to see her friend a couple times since then and was friendly with me but also a little dismissive. I continued to be friendly but also confident and disinterested. She continued to say goodbye to me when she left.
Fast forward to last night. Her and my housemate are having pre-drinks at my place and I'm chillin with my little brother playing guitar. At this point it's been approx a month since I broke it off with her and I've been nothing but "just friends", giving her none of the affection I did when we were together. She'd been texting me a lot saying she missed me stroking her hair and that we could still do that as friends. I'd of course say, no, that's not a friends thing. So it's been a month of me being disinterested and they are out clubbing. At about 3am I get a call from her, it rings twice and she hangs up. I text "??". She said something about the pack of cigarette papers I gave to my housemate and I turned on the niceness I used to give her. I asked her if she was alright etc etc. She's said yes, I just miss you. I replied I miss you too, be safe. Expecting it to be the end. She said, do you really though? I was like, yeah of course. She then said could we possibly sleep in the same bed without sleeping together? I replied yeah, jump into my bed when you get back if you want. She said I can't promise I won't. Then I intentionally mispelt her name (she hates that) and said you're a doll. She was like what the hell that's not how you spell my name. I just replied haha. So they get home at like 5am and she jumps into bed with me, she's drunk as ****, still has her handbag on her arm. I'm like, sup, you good. She's like yeah, pretty drunk. I go to take her bag off and she's like no, I'm going out for a cigarette. I'm like, okay, cool, thanks for waking me up then. She said no problem and went out. I went back to sleep. Get a text from her while she's at my ****ing house, come outside and I'll sleep with you. I chuckle to myself and think "full circle". Now I can reclaim my ****ing pride from the last time you used sex to control me. I do not reply, I close my phone, I roll over and go to sleep. I wake up alone. She's still in my housemates room I think, haven't seen her yet.
Hope you all found this entertaining. It's been a source of amusement for me while I'm out with better quality women. Expect the best and nothing less. PEACE
Back story: I'll keep it short. She's HB7, young, FWB for a couple months, I got oneitis and went AFC, she started bonin alphas, I finally realised I had oneitis and had become AFC again, I immediately ended all intimacy. Now, she's my housemates best friend (which is how I met her) and so I have to see her a LOT. With this in mind I opted to be friends with her. It helps that I quickly ejected from my AFC craft. I decided to have some fun with it and see if it was possible to recover from lost attraction.
So she's young, attractive and on the **** carousel. Fair play to her, I got no beef, but once my feelings started up, had to eject. When I called it off she cried and said she didn't want it to end etc, etc. I told her I had feelings for her and that if she wanted to stop hopping on any **** that'd have her, I'd continue to see her. She declined this offer and so I said it would be better if we stayed friends since I live with her best friend. Initially she said if that's all that's on offer then I decline but eventually realised that would be kind of awkward since she's at MY HOUSE a lot. My house is in caps because she's a guest in my home, a fact I pointed out to her.
So after this, I started looking back at our relationship and analysing in painful detail all the AFC **** I did, but also trying to figure out why I got oneitis for this girl. What I found out, was that I had missed a whole load of red flags that she was LQ and that I really had no reason to be so into her. She told me once in bed that "You've been a good boy, so we can have sex". This one line became the cornerstone of my understand of this girl. (I say girl very consciously) Both her sisters are married to rich men and she comes from a wealthy family. Her mum is also a ***** who cheats on her husband.
I'm probably the first guy who's ever turned her down for sex. This seems to have gotten the hamster spinning again after I pulled the plug. We were talking about being friends and that we could still hang out and stuff, which honestly I'm fine with because she is fun to be around, despite her flaws. She said, yeah maybe we could be friends with benefits. At this point, I was almost going to do it. I'd mostly moved past my oneitis and only just started spinning plates, so haven't been getting laid. In the end I decided not to. I had to stick to my frame.
Thus begun the games. I'm not sure what made me think she'd just be cool with being friends, I guess it's because I assumed I'd killed all the attraction. She continued to allude to hooking up with me, saying things like "oh we probably shouldn't drink together, might end up jumping you". I would reply with things like "Don't worry about that, I have self control.". Just basically dismissing her attempts to control me with her sexuality. This is when I noticed the hamster spinning.
Now I'm going to stop here with a disclaimer: This is not an advice thread. Everything I'm doing is for my own amusement, not to achieve anything. I might sleep with this girl IF I FEEL LIKE IT, but I probably won't and a relationship of any kind is way off the cards.
So, I continue to attempt the friendship but she's giving me a lot of drama. Hot/cold, weirdness etc. I decided that even though I was going to be friends with her, I was going to try and mess with her controlling behavior. Considering we're just friends, it led to some interesting behavior.
So I attempt to set up our first hang out as friends, a game of pool (which she hates). She agreed and I contact her late in the week, say I've been busy and ask her to hang out the following day. She says she's coming to my house but that I should ask my housemate if we can go to the pub. I tell her I wasn't organising her plans for her but that we could hang for a bit while she was around. Then she said well maybe we can hang next week during the week, maybe. (The multiple maybes are important). I said MAYBE we can. When she was around, I went and hung out with her and my housemate for about 20 minutes and went back to my room to do work. I was friendly, held eye contact and was my normal ****y/confident self. She knocked on my door and stood in the doorway and said, I'm going now. I said cool story hansel (something she used to say ALL the time when we were seeing each other) to which she got noticeably annoyed and said fine, I'm never saying goodbye to you again. I said, sounds great and held eye contact with a ****y smile on my face.
Fast forward to the following Friday. My plans for the night fell through so I text her in the afternoon when I found out my other plate had cancelled and said something along the lines of "hey, my plans fell through. lets have drinks and some games of pool tonight." She replied very shortly I have plans tonight and I'm busy over the weekend, have a good one. Definitely getting a reaction from her which is what I wanted. I replied with "Okay, cool" and haven't text her since. She came around to my place to see her friend a couple times since then and was friendly with me but also a little dismissive. I continued to be friendly but also confident and disinterested. She continued to say goodbye to me when she left.
Fast forward to last night. Her and my housemate are having pre-drinks at my place and I'm chillin with my little brother playing guitar. At this point it's been approx a month since I broke it off with her and I've been nothing but "just friends", giving her none of the affection I did when we were together. She'd been texting me a lot saying she missed me stroking her hair and that we could still do that as friends. I'd of course say, no, that's not a friends thing. So it's been a month of me being disinterested and they are out clubbing. At about 3am I get a call from her, it rings twice and she hangs up. I text "??". She said something about the pack of cigarette papers I gave to my housemate and I turned on the niceness I used to give her. I asked her if she was alright etc etc. She's said yes, I just miss you. I replied I miss you too, be safe. Expecting it to be the end. She said, do you really though? I was like, yeah of course. She then said could we possibly sleep in the same bed without sleeping together? I replied yeah, jump into my bed when you get back if you want. She said I can't promise I won't. Then I intentionally mispelt her name (she hates that) and said you're a doll. She was like what the hell that's not how you spell my name. I just replied haha. So they get home at like 5am and she jumps into bed with me, she's drunk as ****, still has her handbag on her arm. I'm like, sup, you good. She's like yeah, pretty drunk. I go to take her bag off and she's like no, I'm going out for a cigarette. I'm like, okay, cool, thanks for waking me up then. She said no problem and went out. I went back to sleep. Get a text from her while she's at my ****ing house, come outside and I'll sleep with you. I chuckle to myself and think "full circle". Now I can reclaim my ****ing pride from the last time you used sex to control me. I do not reply, I close my phone, I roll over and go to sleep. I wake up alone. She's still in my housemates room I think, haven't seen her yet.
Hope you all found this entertaining. It's been a source of amusement for me while I'm out with better quality women. Expect the best and nothing less. PEACE
