I think confidence comes naturally if you know what to talk about

[AreYouSingleFemale]

I just can't seem to strike up a conversation with a stranger woman. To make matters worse they are always found in groups. If some invisible geek were at my side all the time and told me exactly what to talk whenever I spot a woman, I would do so with supreme confidence. I fail not because I'm afraid to talk to them but because I don't know what to talk. Simply saying 'Hi, how are you doing?' etc don't work. They leave you back in square 1 very quickly. I can't see how confidence comes from just feeling good about yourself and the world. It might be called confidence but how does that alone help you get a woman?

I'm sorry: I just saw another guy has asked a very similar question. I would delete my message if I could.

 

[Pimp101]

Its the other way round. Knowing what to talk about is a symptom and not a cause of confidence. You don't know what to say because you're nervous. Confidence comes from beliefs and physiology (seriously, try working out it does wonders).

 

[ChrizZ]

I just can't seem to strike up a conversation with a stranger woman. To make matters worse they are always found in groups. If some invisible geek were at my side all the time and told me exactly what to talk whenever I spot a woman, I would do so with supreme confidence. I fail not because I'm afraid to talk to them but because I don't know what to talk. Simply saying 'Hi, how are you doing?' etc don't work. They leave you back in square 1 very quickly. I can't see how confidence comes from just feeling good about yourself and the world. It might be called confidence but how does that alone help you get a woman?

I'm sorry: I just saw another guy has asked a very similar question. I would delete my message if I could.

you need both confidence and competence to succeed.

Ask lots of big fat open ended questions.

 

[intel123]

does big fat open ended quesitons have attraction behind them ? or is how u say it

 

[intel123]

use mystery methods patterns. when u talk to the group .

he says

hey here is were the partys at . !! then he looks at the target (girl) and says if i wasnt gay youll be mine it shows her u are flirting . then escalte from there

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Its the other way round. Knowing what to talk about is a symptom and not a cause of confidence. You don't know what to say because you're nervous. Confidence comes from beliefs and physiology (seriously, try working out it does wonders).

Knowing what to say is not required to be confident. It's not about a person's conversations, it's about his character.

 

[ChrizZ]

does big fat open ended quesitons have attraction behind them ? or is how u say it

hot girls get complimented on their looks all the time.

If you want to stand out you have to find something unique about her that you can compliment. You do that by asking big fat open ended questions that you can relate to. That builds attraction.

Example:

You: So what's your passion in life?
Her: I want to become a nurse.
You: Sexy and caring. I like that about you! Yeah, I like helping people, too. I want to become blablabla (relate to what she says from the "I" perspective by describing what you feel and not so much the facts).

That's a good way to talk to women.

 

[DonJuan11]

I just can't seem to strike up a conversation with a stranger woman. To make matters worse they are always found in groups. If some invisible geek were at my side all the time and told me exactly what to talk whenever I spot a woman, I would do so with supreme confidence. I fail not because I'm afraid to talk to them but because I don't know what to talk. Simply saying 'Hi, how are you doing?' etc don't work. They leave you back in square 1 very quickly. I can't see how confidence comes from just feeling good about yourself and the world. It might be called confidence but how does that alone help you get a woman?

You mean unknown women. You can't strike up a conversation because you want to sleep with them. Could you strike up a conversation with Rosie O at the bank if she liked hockey and you liked hockey? Of course you could, because you just care about the conversation and don't care about sleeping with her.

If the girl is ugly or fat and talked about Sports (assuming you know about some), there is no way in hell you would be nervous. It would be like talking to your buddy.