I talk too much about myself

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Well, I can't deny it any longer: I talk too much about myself and it's hurting my relations with people in general. I feel good about myself and such. I tend not to care what others think, but I know that it isn't good to always talk about yourself cuz people begin to dislike you (its one thing if one person dislikes you. It's a whole other thing if everyone does). It's not that I spout out so much about myself and describe how things were from birth (I still have that veil around me preventing people from knowing how I work), rather just my own experiences on certain things because I can relate a lot of the times. But I need to be able to get people talking more rather the opposite. I tend to notice that I either talk a lot or not enough. I want to find that balance.

I need to step up my social skills to the next level. How do I do that?

 

[Tictac]

Ask people questions and follow up questions. Be interested in them.

Do not be formulating want you want to say as other people talk.

You are not listening to respond. You are listening to understand.

 

[ubercat]

Depends on your memory. I dictate a few notes on my phone. If Its somebody you're likely to see again. If u can remember some fact about them they love it.

 

[Lozboss]

You need to read:

How to win friends and influence people.

Old school but bang on.

In it Dale Carnegie talks about how it's human nature that the people we are interested in the most are those who are the most interested in U.S.

 

[BrainDamage92]

goes well with your name tho

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Thx for the vid Ruler. It actually did help. I forgot about the 30/70 and 40/60 rule. You did clear up how you can talk to people more often by making small talk if it's a one on one thing, but different for group settings. I always knew they were different, but couldn't figure out what that difference was. I'll try to apply this more.

Ask people questions and follow up questions. Be interested in them.

Do not be formulating want you want to say as other people talk.

You are not listening to respond. You are listening to understand.

The bold part is something I never really thought about before, and that last point seemed a good way to look at it. Thx for the advice. My issue is though that what if I don't follow up fast enough? Then that's talking too little.

goes well with your name tho

I was thinking the same thing hahaha.