"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I sucked it up and want to start fresh

Eventide

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I lifted weights every morning all through last year and didnt gain many results. Looking back I realize I was inconsistent. I would go 3 days a week some weeks and 2 days another, or some weeks not at all.

My form was terrible. I always lifted the max amount I could, even if it meant poor form.

And finally, I didn't get enough rest. I'm a big nerd and have a habit of running 5 hours of sleep a night.

I want to start fresh and would like some advice.

First off, my consistency. I have a severe motivation problem. I used to get up a 5AM before school, which, considering that I usually went to bed at 12, was very hard for me to do. I need help motivating myself to go to bed early and to wake up early.

Second of all, I need to fix my poor form. How would you guys recommend going about this. I want to try Optimum Volume Training (Article | Routine ). Should I start off using little to no wait? Are there articles I can read about form? What can I do to ensure that I'm using proper form?

Finally, my schedule. I'm a very busy kid for my age. I work 4 days a week, and it is always from 4:30-9. I also have school from 7:45-3. I was thinking that in order to get more rest, I could start going to the gym between 3 and 4:30. Do you guys think I'll have enough time to train in an 45min-hour (I'd need 15 to get to the gym from school and 15 to get ready for work).

And once again the motivation; how can I convince myself to go to bed on time all the time?

Thanks for all the help guys.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Abnigh9

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Just do it.

Read "7 Habits of Effective People" while you can. It'll help in the long run.
 

chim_chim

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45-60 mins is long enough for a workout. A lot of people recommend a four day split with 40 minute workouts for max muscle gain.

As far as getting more sleep, would it be possible to wake up later? In adolescence your body naturally wants to go to sleep and wake up later. I know I'd have a tough time waking up at 5 every morning.

I have a feeling your problem last winter was mainly either not enough sleep or not enough food. Putting on muscle is like a three-legged stool. Sleep, nutrition, and weightlifting are all a leg. If you're missing a leg, your stool collapses.

Also, I'd personally go with Diesel's bulking guide over Optimum Volume Training. His guide is still gold.

This web site shows the proper form for exercises: http://www.exrx.net/Lists/Directory.html
If you're just beginning, you might not want to do too many complex exercises; master a few at a time.
 
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