"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I Stole My Best Friends Target!

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So I'm in a bar & my best friend is talkin to a chick...I keep tellin him to kiss close.he's been talkin for 2hrs no kino!nothing!! I said if you don't kiss close I'm goin to! It took me approx 7min to take her into a booth & almost f*ck her & made her get me a drink!

Now I think I lost a best friend! But I was just tryin to prove a point! :( F*ck!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SamTheHobit

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This is why I dont have friends.
 

Deadly_Ripped

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I don't keep friends who wouldn't make a move but would then be angry at me for doing it. That's just unrealistic and haterish.
 

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He shouldn't be mad. Was he in love with her or something. Before I got in relationship I would **** girls thats my friends wanted. Then once I'm done I let them get it back. and vice versa. It's just nature.
 

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And I found out on the way home (very uncomfrtble 1hr ride) that he was buyin her & friends drinks all night! Ugh I feel bad but I keep tryin to explain what he's doin wrong. he feels betrayed either way. I'm getting back into the game but he's too sensitve.I might need another wing. I hate this feeling cause I think I was kinda wrong!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Great friend you are. I'm a strong believer of the bro code, and when a friend digs a girl, you don't touch her. Why? Because you might bang this chick for a weeks and move on, leaving you without both her and your best friend.

Is some poon really worth losing your best friend over? I think not. You basically proved you're not a best friend, since you're a backstabber. I sure as hell wouldn't want to rely on you in cases of emergency.
 

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I'd never try on a girl whom my friend is trying on. Chicks may come and go but it takes time to form a good friendship. I'd feel very betrayed if that had happen to me, no matter who on here saying "best man win" or "he didnt make a move". Why the need to compete with your friend for some random chick and lose your friendship over it!!! My attitude is if my friend likes a girl, even if I like her I'd back off for him first.
 

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every freakin girl that is around my friends or is even dating them tries to get me shortly after we meet, i'm like a magnet for this ****, and I never get decent cute GF material girls to be interested, I am just too damn intimidating and player looking...my point is forget your friends, if they are any good or worth anything they will understand that you can't help it, now if you are actively seeking your friends sh!t then you need to step back and analyze things, that is total douche right there
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I see I'm getting mixed responses & this is the way I feel! Very mixed about it. In one way I knw I'm a natural & if there's a cute girl giving ioi's like crazy I go for it, but another thought is there were 50other girls I cldve approached.

My decision is I'm on the side of Bros before hos!

I'm gonna go to his house & apologize

You don't Alpha male your trusted friend! I'm a Man & I admit I was wrong. Thx for the advice guys it helps
 

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YOu should not have done that. That's disrespectful rather he was good or not. You are a **** tier friend.
 

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In one way I knw I'm a natural & if there's a cute girl giving ioi's like crazy I go for it, but another thought is there were 50other girls I cldve approached.
That's what I was thinking. I know you were trying to prove a point, but why weren't you out trying to game your own chicks?
I doubt that your friend was having that great a time knowing you were hanging over him criticizing his every move (or lack thereof). Maybe he felt too pressured. Why not have more fun?

Anyway, I hope he learned to be a little more aggressive. Honestly, if it was me, I would probably never hang out with you again, at least not if there were women involved. The poor dude invested two hours of his time just to have you swoop in there at the end and snatch her.
 

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on the way home
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I found out
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her & [HER] friends
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I might need another wing.
Sounds to me like your friend is the one that needs the new wing if you weren't there to handle her friends so he could build comfort with her. What exactly were you doing if he was with her and her friends and you weren't trying to get one of those "50other girls"?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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NoCommitments said:
I see I'm getting mixed responses & this is the way I feel! Very mixed about it. In one way I knw I'm a natural & if there's a cute girl giving ioi's like crazy I go for it, but another thought is there were 50other girls I cldve approached.

My decision is I'm on the side of Bros before hos!

I'm gonna go to his house & apologize

You don't Alpha male your trusted friend! I'm a Man & I admit I was wrong. Thx for the advice guys it helps
If you're feeling guilty about it then chances are you're in the wrong, Your morality tells you that you've made a mistake. I'd do what you said and apologize, hope it goes well.
 

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**** happens sometimes. Apologize, explain the point you were trying to prove, go grab a beer with him or something. If he's a true friend he'll also be willing to hear you out, despite the kinda ****ish move.
 

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Well at least he's forcing his friend to take action. It's pretty pissing to see friends make the same mistakes over and over again and not being able to help them cause they don't listen to you. Well he knows your right now, but in the worst way possible. Let it blow over for a week or two and hopefully you guys get past it, and hey now that he knows you're right you can offer to teach him.
 

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I see I'm getting mixed responses & this is the way I feel! Very mixed about it. In one way I knw I'm a natural & if there's a cute girl giving ioi's like crazy I go for it, but another thought is there were 50other girls I cldve approached.

My decision is I'm on the side of Bros before hos!

I'm gonna go to his house & apologize

You don't Alpha male your trusted friend! I'm a Man & I admit I was wrong. Thx for the advice guys it helps
If you do what you say you're going to do, you'll have my respect.

A man should never let a woman come between him and a friend, as I see you understand now. Let us know what happens.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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