I still got it

[backbreaker]

I want to start off by saying I didn't do anything I wasn't supposed to do.

Okay every once in a while in NA or AA you get these college students that show up to a group that aren't drug addicts; people who are doing their major in drug rehabilitation fields and want to see how an NA / AA group works or what not, sometimes it's realized usually it isn't, but you see this pretty often

Anyway so about a month, maybe closer to 2 months ago this chick shows up to one of our meetings and she introduces herself as one of these people. Let's call her L.

L is pretty damn cute. A solid 7.5/8. petite, very long blonde hair, she's more beautiful than "hot". wears a little bit too much make up for my liking but even wtiih it off she isn't a dog.

Anyway, of course she comes in and after the group all the guys there were on her like white on rice. I'm not a jerk at all, but I don't show her any attention, I really don't have a reason to.

She comes to like 2 meetings a week. AFter the first few weeks she introduces herself to me and we chat it up. she's married and i can tell instantly she comes from some money. i don't know what it is about me attracting chicks that come form money it's like a gift lol. Drives a white 2013 lexus RX... mind you she still is in school and doesn't have a job.

Anyway, she asks me some questions about recovery and what not and again i'm not mean or anything i talk i even crack a few jokes with her but then i go about my business.

So like 2 weeks ago she shows up to the meeting and she now starts to sit next to me in the meeting. now she is following me around every where. asking me questions about my personal life, what TV shows I like, etc. I mean i'm cool wit her i don't mind talking to her but i know by now already EXACTLy what is happening and why it's happening.


here is the kicker. she grauduated like 2 saturdays ago. she's done with school. i thought the last time i was going to see her was like 2 weeks ago. so today i'm at the meeting and her she comes and again comes and plots right next to me and she's like i wanted to see you. And all the guys in the group well not all but alot of them already don't like me and it just pisses them off the **** never fails. she's being really flirty all meeting. I had told her one of my fav tv shows was the wire and she was telling me about how she went out and bought the first season that night and watched it.. i was like damn girl you are off the chain.


so after the meeting she asks ME if i want to go grab some coffee (=fvck me) and i tell her look she's cute and honestly, she's my type and she really is but i am happily married, **** and i don't want to put myself in a situation i wouldn't want to see my wife in. she was like awww that's too bad. gave me her number and told me to keep in touch. threw it away.

the **** is fish in a barrel. it really is.

i cannot believe how easy the ignore method works. this is pretty much my game lol. this is my ace pitch. it got my wife. be nice and pleasant but ignore. **** go out of your way to ignore. either on purpose or be aloof.

at that meeting, and this is the reason i made this post, every guy there was going out of theiur way to out alpha / out joke / out man each other. and there are some dudes that got their **** together in the rooms i'm not the only one.

don't be a jerk but sit back and let the dudes fight that **** out, show your value / worth but don't go out of your way to show them any attention.

I'm good looking but i'm not a supermodel. she doesn't know what i do for a living for how much money i have or where i live and **** by the looks of things i wouldn't be suprised if she has more than i do. but she knew one thing.. i was very sure of myself and i could control my emotions and i was mature, and i'm probably the youngest guy there. Guys 1-2-5 years older than me trying to battle each other for a womans'a ttention.

just let them fight it out.

I really can't believe in 2013 with all these internet sites and all this DJ material posted on line and all the women magazines just how effective this technique is. If i am in a situation where i am goign to see a woman often this works more times than it doesn't.

 

[CaliMan007]

That's awesome man! Kudos to you!

Just wondering, when you say you ignored her, does this mean no eye contact? Do you act like she doesn't even exist?

 

[backbreaker]

That's awesome man! Kudos to you!

Just wondering, when you say you ignored her, does this mean no eye contact? Do you act like she doesn't even exist?

good question

i mean i don't "ignore" them. if they talk to me i will talk to them but i say what i need to say and go about my business.

this is actually a really good question because a lot of guys i don't think know how to ignore a woman.;

1. don't look at her. i mean like when we were in the meeting and we are in there for one our i wouldn't look at her once. i mean if someone next to her was talking i'd look but at that person. the worst thing you can do is being caught playing eye tag with a chick, the gig is up at that point she knows you want her.

part of the reason this chick wanted me was because she didn't know if i wanted her.

see what kills chicks like this is because they want to know if i am being nice because i want to bang her or because i'm just being friendly. with all the other guys it's obvious as day.

But it only works if the girl thinks you have attractive qualities otherwise she isn't going to care enough to give a **** either way.

This happens a lot more with me now because i'm married. Because i really am not looking at chicks anymore in a sexual manner / i want to bang them so when i am talking to them i have no agenda. if i need something i get what i need and i go about my business. and this works even when i don't want it to work lol.

hot girls are used to being oogled and hit on. use that to your advantage.

It's the most subtle neg hit you can use. I got better **** to do than to talk to you.


another good hint, do not allow yourself to be associated with the eye candy crew

what is the eye candy crew? the guys that sit around and do nothing but talk about man i want to fvck X or damn she looks good. because the girls know what those guys are doing and you don't' want to be associated with that

lol i'm not saying you don't want to fvck the same girls that they do. you just don't want them to associate you with those guys.

and it's funny because one of my better friends in the group who is like 3 months older than me he's always talking about how he wants to f this or how he thinks so and so is hot and he told me that a few dudes in the group think i'm gay or what not because i NEVER talk about women. yet at the end of the day women always are finding their way around me lol

i told him bro i don't kiss and tell. women like discrete. THAT's game. women from my experience don't like manish men.

 

[zekko]

1) What you're describing is my default attitude toward dealing with new women. I always feel that if a beautiful woman comes into my circle, she needs to earn my notice, she doesn't deserve for me to notice her just on the basis of her beauty alone.

Yeah, it doesn't really work with me, lol. I'm not ugly by any means, but I don't have the looks that will grab me attention on their own. For me, ignoring her isn't enough to pull her away from a bunch of guys who are already showering her with attention.

Attention wh0res eat this type of thing up, but it doesn't get me anywhere with the type of women I really want. I can get better results just by being friendly. I find that it's my personality that attracts women to me, so I'm better off using it.

I mean, maybe it works to the extent that it might make me seem high value. But it doesn't work to the point where the girl is going to come ask me for coffee. At some point I am still going to have to engage her.

Really, if this worked for everybody, there would be no reason for this forum to exist. Just ignore any girl and they'll all come running.

2) I know you consider this your go to move to get women, ignore them. But I wonder if there isn't something else you're doing that catches their interest. Like maybe during the times that you do interact with them, you are especially warm and engaging, maybe the same thing that made you a good car salesman. Or maybe you are displaying high value with others while you're ignoring her. Or maybe it's just your dress and appearance.

3) So the question is, why does this work? I suppose it shows that you are not needy, you're not desperate for attention. It shows that you aren't all that impressed by her. It shows you aren't one of the horndog guys that drools all over new tail. It makes her curious why you don't chase her like the rest of the guys. But like you say, this is only going to work if you have attractive qualities to begin with.

 

[backbreaker]

2) I know you consider this your go to move to get women, ignore them. But I wonder if there isn't something else you're doing that catches their interest. Like maybe during the times that you do interact with them, you are especially warm and engaging, maybe the same thing that made you a good car salesman. Or maybe you are displaying high value with others while you're ignoring her. Or maybe it's just your dress and appearance.

all of the above. I'm a very nice guy in real life. I am pretty funny. I just don't go out of my way to show her or any woman not my wife attention. Then when they do try to engage with me, i engage and disengage and go about my business

More than anything I think it works because you peek their curosity. that's the thing about attraction is that it can at least from mye xpeirnece be generated. i doubt when she first walked in the door i stook out like a sore thumb. i mean she saw me and was probably like oh he's not bad looking but **** there are like 10-15 other not bad looking guys there every night.

But whereas every other guy made their move and tried to impress her I didn't. And also keep in mind I have 8 years clean so in that circle, i'm kinda a big deal lol 8 years is some time. i think there are only 7 people in the entire group that have more clean time than i do and i'm the youngest by at least 15 years, so people like to hear me share on topics. And on top of that of the 10-15 guys there i'm the only one that actually chairs meetings and to chair a meeting you have to have some real time. at least in this group so obviously without me saying anything about myself she knew i had some value. I'm the best dressed guy there always. I can put it together style wise.

but other than that, i mean i don't even drive my jag up there, once in a blue moon she's never seen it. She starts to wonder about me then when she meets me and i don't' use the chance to blurt out my life story or hit on her she's thinking humm either he's gay or he is not fawning over me. hummm what's going on here.

that's how attraction starts, curiosity. I'd make her laugh just beucase i'm a funny dude when i wanna be but then i'd go about my business. For some reason this drives women crazy. This I'm nice to you but I got **** to do attitude.

lol i ought to bring my wife up there and let her handle the situation sh'ed be like "who is this little tramp lol" .

BTW the girl in question is 22.

 

[Dedication]

Can't you just **** her in the ass?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

100% agree with BB on this. This is my default game for girls who are 8's and up that I know I'm going to be seeing on a regular basis; work, social circle, etc.

This works better the hotter the girl is and the more she is use to getting attention simply from her looks.

Three of the hottest girls I've got in the past few years have been from the ignore technique.

Granted as BB pointed out, there has to be some base level attraction from the girl for this method to even have legs. Lets be honest, if she isn't attracted to you on some level, she won't care if your not talking to her.

My method with this is pretty much exactly like BB explained. I will generally be very friendly, smile and be genuine when I meet them or am introduced to them. Then just go about my business and not even acknowledge them the next several times I see them, (that's in a work scenario where I see them 5 days a week). In more social situations, I will maybe spend a minute or two chatting with them, but always do my own thing.

The key is to make them curious about you, they can never know that you are actively ignoring them, you must make them think that your so pre-occupied with whatever else your doing.

And its hilariously entertaining to watch the girl get flustered and make an increased effort to gain your attention as it gains momentum.

IMO if the girl is attracted to you, this technique catapults you to the front of the line because it makes her want to prove herself to you, prize mentality.









PIMP

 

[zekko]

My problem with this idea is that if you have the looks and attractive qualities to get the girl's attention without engaging her, you could probably take a more friendly approach and land the girl anyway. Although I have to admit ignoring her is a lot easier!

But again, if this worked for everybody, there would be no need for this forum.

 

[tryst type]

BB funny you say you primarily do this because you're married (which I'd expect) when I'm hanging with my friends (who all have gfs) in social settings they don't act like that at all and I'm the one who does.

It's painful to watch as they try to out alpha each other especially when their gfs are around its like this unspoken contest to prove to every girl there even if their the gfs of friends that one is the better guy/catch.

I like to take these opportunities to act aloof/disinterested in everything going on especially the presence of their gfs. I know it has an affect that makes me stand out. And no it's not that I'm trying to attract their gfs it's merely too exhausting even amusingly trying to participate. I think deep down my friends still need outward approval from any present female, makes me feel uncomfortable to witness.

I remember once at a friend'a bday party everyone was playing apples to apples and one friend who loves being competitive/seeming like the most catch (he's a try hard without realizing it) well he was winning and gloating.

I didn't even want to play and it was the last turn where he would have won and he was showing off how many cards he has basically showing he was on top so I look to him and say "hurry up and win so we don't have to play anymore" and his gf started laughing. He didn't like that very much

 

[LongLostFriend]

Do you use any of this to instill dread in your wife?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

My problem with this idea is that if you have the looks and attractive qualities to get the girl's attention without engaging her, you could probably take a more friendly approach and land the girl anyway. Although I have to admit ignoring her is a lot easier!

But again, if this worked for everybody, there would be no need for this forum.

Your probably right, but my answer to this is it takes their average interest and makes it 100x stronger.

We all know girls act based on emotion, and once you create that feeling within them, they will chase chase and chase some more.

Girls are pre-conditioned to expect a certain amount of attention esp when they know they're hot. When you don't give their looks any attention, it peaks curiosity along with base level attraction to get them to chase you.

I should note that I'm always friendly, engaging and approachable with everyone. I can't speak for BB, but I know this is another facet of what makes these girls find the target guy attractive; everyone likes him, he's genuine, happy and positive.








PIMP

 

[backbreaker]

I like to take these opportunities to act aloof/disinterested in everything going on especially the presence of their gfs. I know it has an affect that makes me stand out. And no it's not that I'm trying to attract their gfs it's merely too exhausting even amusingly trying to participate. I think deep down my friends still need outward approval from any present female, makes me feel uncomfortable to witness.

that's the thing. that's why inner game is so important. lol I don't care if she approves of me or not. i don't care if any broad outside of my wife approves of me or not. i really don't. rather she thinks i'm a man or if she thinks i'm gay seriously could give 2 ****s.

guys iMHO who are outwardly alpha like that IMHO really are trying to hid inner game issues. once you really start having confidence in yourself you really don't seek out others approval anymore

 

[Dedication]

Can't you just **** her in the ass?

Sorry for this post haha, i felt great at the time and felt like making a joke that i found funny. But as it turns out, emotions don't really carry over through electricity.

I look like a jackass, but i had no intentions of being one hahaha.