steelpulse
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A large group of us went out recently to celebrate birthdays in December. Things are tense in this group. The guys don't get along that well, the same for the girls. It's basically a sorting contest to see who can date who. Fortunately, there were probably a half dozen attractive girls in this group. All of the girls in this group are attracted to me, but the half dozen attractive ones are the ones who interest me of course.
I felt spread a little thin, trying to talk to all of them. The other guys chose a different strategy, focusing on one girl. The girls weren't very interested in these guys, as they would ignore the other guy if I was anywhere in the vicinity. Sometimes my attention was split between two or more girls simultaneously.
Around midnight, the group split off into people going to a diner to hang out, the others to a club to continue the festivities. One of the girls I was interested in was going with the diner group. I invited myself. She agreed enthusiastically. It would've been two guys, two girls, not bad. I don't really like the other guy, he's kinda creepy. I invited myself, but then I disinvited myself when I found out most of our group was going to the club. The girl seemed understanding, and certainly not overtly upset or angry.
So I had a chance to spend more time with the girl I'm currently seeing now at the club.
The problem is, the girl I disinvited myself from now hates me. I have seen her multiple times in the past month and she refuses to make eye contact much less talk to me. I was getting a movie at redox. She comes out, sees me, walks right back into the store rather than even acknowledge me. She is dating the guy who went to the diner with her. Or I assume she is. The last group events I've seen her at they've arrived together. So everything should be copacetic? I'm dating someone, she is as well, I don't hate her, but she hates me.
I spent a lot of time with her that night, but I didn't feel strongly attracted even though she's pretty, sweet, definitely not a party girl. But now I kinda regret it and I can't really explain why. The only explanation that makes sense is that I want to have my cake and eat it too. Date several girls simultaneously. This is a situation where that would be frowned upon. I re-signed myself to her dating someone else. I'm polite and kind to her, without trying to "hit on her." But she won't even look in my direction.
This wouldn't bother me except I see her so often, once a week sometimes more, during social events that can go on for hours. I would like to believe I can go to these events and others without this weird tension. Is that possible? She doesn't want to feel like I'm stringing her along, I can understand that, but it feels 'hostile' now.
I felt spread a little thin, trying to talk to all of them. The other guys chose a different strategy, focusing on one girl. The girls weren't very interested in these guys, as they would ignore the other guy if I was anywhere in the vicinity. Sometimes my attention was split between two or more girls simultaneously.
Around midnight, the group split off into people going to a diner to hang out, the others to a club to continue the festivities. One of the girls I was interested in was going with the diner group. I invited myself. She agreed enthusiastically. It would've been two guys, two girls, not bad. I don't really like the other guy, he's kinda creepy. I invited myself, but then I disinvited myself when I found out most of our group was going to the club. The girl seemed understanding, and certainly not overtly upset or angry.
So I had a chance to spend more time with the girl I'm currently seeing now at the club.
The problem is, the girl I disinvited myself from now hates me. I have seen her multiple times in the past month and she refuses to make eye contact much less talk to me. I was getting a movie at redox. She comes out, sees me, walks right back into the store rather than even acknowledge me. She is dating the guy who went to the diner with her. Or I assume she is. The last group events I've seen her at they've arrived together. So everything should be copacetic? I'm dating someone, she is as well, I don't hate her, but she hates me.
I spent a lot of time with her that night, but I didn't feel strongly attracted even though she's pretty, sweet, definitely not a party girl. But now I kinda regret it and I can't really explain why. The only explanation that makes sense is that I want to have my cake and eat it too. Date several girls simultaneously. This is a situation where that would be frowned upon. I re-signed myself to her dating someone else. I'm polite and kind to her, without trying to "hit on her." But she won't even look in my direction.
This wouldn't bother me except I see her so often, once a week sometimes more, during social events that can go on for hours. I would like to believe I can go to these events and others without this weird tension. Is that possible? She doesn't want to feel like I'm stringing her along, I can understand that, but it feels 'hostile' now.