I slept with my roommate

[1984]

What do you mean delusional? It's what she does. The bathroom is right next to her bedroom, and when I walk past I hear porn and vibrators.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Is it blatant enough for you to hear it when you walk by?

She's not discreet?


Hey...you should try telling her one of these days "Well I'm going to go to sleep. G'night" And have your computer playing porn in the next room while you jerk off to it. She's a freak.

Be a freak and see how she responds.

That's what I would do, anyways.

 

[DavenJuan]

some of the stuff i see on this site is absolutely hilariarous..

so you finally hooked up with your roomamte since you told her your moving out..

then you DONT move out and stay and she stays.

NOW..... you want a "somewhat" relationship??

AND.. this girl supposedly watches porn EVERY night?

do as TM says, what ya got to lose...

lol

 

[MacAvoy]

Is it blatant enough for you to hear it when you walk by?

She's not discreet?


Hey...you should try telling her one of these days "Well I'm going to go to sleep. G'night" And have your computer playing porn in the next room while you jerk off to it. She's a freak.

Be a freak and see how she responds.

That's what I would do, anyways.

some of the stuff i see on this site is absolutely hilariarous..

so you finally hooked up with your roomamte since you told her your moving out..

then you DONT move out and stay and she stays.

NOW..... you want a "somewhat" relationship??

AND.. this girl supposedly watches porn EVERY night?

do as TM says, what ya got to lose...

lol

Thanks guys I really needed a laugh.

 

[iqqi]

Like when she says she's going to bed. What am I supposed to do/say to that? I know she's going to her room to masturbate. She definately did last night. She's always so ****ing quick with a response to everything.

Do I just get up and follow her, give her a hug and nibble on her neck, ask her if I can come, ask her which porno she's watching tonight, ask her if she wants to see a naked man?

See. Too much thinking.

She probably isn't that attracted to you because you ASK if you can come, or if she WANTS to see a naked man. You talk too much.

LOSE the investment, LET her go to her room, then go in a few moments after her, and just start... licking. I say licking as opposed to kissing because she might be wanting less intimacy and more hardcore emotionless booty. Go for the neck, like a vampire.

Remember what I said about losing the investment, this is the #1 thing to remember here. Do NOT go into there assuming you are going to score. Until she is wet and begging, do not get too worked up. Your job at this point is to get her to that point where she is wet and begging.

Because she sounds like a AW, which means she may turn you down just to do it. The first time or two she resists, keep kissing/licking whatever (nothing else - do NOT escalate if she is resisting), the thrid time is her strike out. Without seeming too invested or upset, just walk away. Go to your room, go watch TV whatever. There is a 70% chance she will come get YOU. This may not happen the same night, but that is likely.

The #2 thing to remember... STOP THINKING and for gods sake, do NOT ASK her sh!t or talk at all, if possible.

ALSO. You might not be smooth or confident enough to pull this off. But if you are, then its the way to go.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

LET her go to her room, then go in a few moments after her, and just start... licking. I say licking as opposed to kissing because she might be wanting less intimacy and more hardcore emotionless booty. Go for the neck, like a vampire.

Good God. Now I want some!!:crackup:

 

[BlackJackal]

I get what you're saying about following the signals and not overthinking. It's only that I can never respond to her well.

Like when she says she's going to bed. What am I supposed to do/say to that? I know she's going to her room to masturbate. She definately did last night. She's always so ****ing quick with a response to everything.

Do I just get up and follow her, give her a hug and nibble on her neck, ask her if I can come, ask her which porno she's watching tonight, ask her if she wants to see a naked man?

On that note, when we've been messing around on the couch (last night it was just tickling, pinching and her smacking me in the face with a pillow for no ****ing reason, so I took it from her for a while), and she goes off to her room to play with herself, does that mean the job is half done, or does it mean that she's bored of me and would rather be in the company of some toys and porn?

I don't mean to overthink any of these things. I wasn't until the other roommate got all serious with me and kind of told me she didn't seem interested in me. She was probably just trying to keep me from getting hurt or something, but my mindset was totally at ease before that.

And as for wanting a relationship with this girl... I really don't know. It would depend on how things go in the future. That's why I want to keep things casual for now. She's generally cool to be around, and she never flakes on me. We spend a lot of time together, but I'm not bored of her. The only problem I'm having is the occasional awkwardness and her whole "I'm going to bed (but I'm really going to masturbate while you sit on the couch watching Family Guy)." routine everynight.

These kind of questions are a waste of time. Best anyone can tell you is to make a move. Just make a move and in one move all your questions will be answered. Honestly considering that you already hit it, there's no reason to feel you have to ask her sh**. If I were you , I would let her go in the room to warm herself up for a few minutes. Just let her do her thing. Then I would go in there on hard lettin her know it's goin down. Through my actions of course.

Worst she could do is reject your advances.

 

[1984]

I don't know what my problem is.

Last night we watched a movie, and we flirted a good bit. Before that, when she came home, she came into my room again, and layed down on my bed while I was in the middle of installing something in my computer.

After the movie I guess I got all wierd again, and came on too strong. She told me she was going to bed, told me I was going to my bed, and that was that. Told me to stop being wierd. I mean, I really didn't even say anything by that point, so I just stood there as she stood there looking at me, asking me if I had something to say.

When she went into her room I just left. Went out with some friends, and ended up crashing at their place. I woke up to a text message from her telling me that we need to talk.

I love bad news.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Let this be a very valuable lesson to you. The next time a chick says she wants to f*ck, F*CK!!! If that's all she wants to do DON'T get the wrong friggin' idea, brah!!

 

[MacAvoy]

This

After the movie I guess I got all wierd again, and came on too strong. She told me she was going to bed, told me I was going to my bed, and that was that. Told me to stop being wierd. I mean, I really didn't even say anything by that point, so I just stood there as she stood there looking at me, asking me if I had something to say.

....

I woke up to a text message from her telling me that we need to talk.

I love bad news.

is why you need to do this

Without thinking too much, if you really like her and want to pursue something with her then you need to move out. You can't live with her and expect the relationship to grow normally or healthy.

if you want to have any success with her. You can't date someone that your cohabitating with. It takes away all the attraction. You know the prize mentality? aka you are the prize.

You know when you first told her you were moving out, she magically slept with you, it was because she didn't want to lose you. Right now she has you right where she wants you, she knows what your doing 24/7, whereas if you lived somewhere else she'd be sitting at home imagining what your doing. By her imagining what your doing, it increases her attraction for you.

I agree. A woman's imagination is a DJ's best tool. Add to this women's attention needs for self affirmation and the feminine competition anxiety dynamic and you really have all you need to maintain the frame. I'm not advocating a ruthless exploitation of all this, but rather to keep it in mind to keep a healthy hold on the frame. Let her imagination work for you.

Now I've explained what you need to do, the choice is yours, you can either take the advice or you can continue to screw things up. However it may be too late for that.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

the very fact your getting yourself into a big flap over this suggests your not able to handle the situation, which is also why your on here.

she is testing you, and you continue to mess-up. If you had been playing your cards right, she would have slept with you time and time again by now. she is waiting to see if your a man or mouse? which are you....

you tend to be negative about things before its happened too, which is not healthy. Only you can judge how to be around her based on her personality and what makes her tick, butn generally you should be laid back, FUN to be with, and a sexual predator !

I'l tell you whats going to happen - she keeps giving you chances by coming into your room, and you keep messing up. soon, if not already she's going to get fed up and give up. Your not handling her tests well...

keep improving, you'l get there.

 

[1984]

We had our talk last night. She was acting awkwardly, so I had to ask her what she wanted to talk about. She said that my behavior the other night was rude. All I remember doing was sort of walking towards her bedroom door, and her pushing me back, telling me that she was going to bed, and I'm going to my bed. Then I told her she was boring, and walked away. I can easily see where I came across as rude, so I apologized.

Then she brought up how she thought I was upset with her for going to bed, saying something about how she can't spend all of her time with me. I guess she was implying that I want to be around her all the time, when it's usually her asking me to hang out. She thought that by going out to the bar right after she went to bed, I was showing her that I was upset with her, and trying to drive that point further by not coming home.

I didn't have to, but I told her it gets boring in the apartment when everybody goes to bed, and I still have a few hours to silently burn. So, I go out. And that night I had too much to drink, so I crashed at my old roommates apartment. It wasn't some sorry attempt at playing headgames with her.

I told her I was going to do what I'm going to do, and asked her if by going out tonight (well, actually last night), it meant I was mad and trying to make a point. She said, "No, because you don't seem upset right now.".

I asked her if that was all she wanted to talk about, and she said yes. I told her to stop taking everything so seriously, and put my attention back on the TV. Then, as always, she announced that she had to get up early tomorrow, and needed to go to bed. We made a little small talk about her job, then she just sat there silently for a few minutes, got up, and waved or something as she walked to her room.

I had plans, so I went out shortly afterwards.

So I don't get where things are going. I still haven't been given a clear "negative" on the situation, but it's not looking too good either. I'm not going to go barging in her room. Knowing her, she'd find some way of making me feel like a total ******* if I did that, no matter how I tried it. She's never responded to anything physical I've ever done, unless she's already gotten herself worked up emotionally first. She literally has to ask for it, or I'm dead in the water. I've gotten her to that point a few times in the past, but I can't remember how I got there. Usually I just verbalized my intentions, or did nothing at all really, and she would at least make out with me. Maybe get her tits out.

The time we had sex in the past, I don't remember putting anything into getting her in bed. We went out drinking with my then roommate, who later insisted that she stayed at the house rather than drive home. She said that if she stayed, she would have to sleep in my bed. The rest was just as easy.

A few other things, as though this wasn't long enough of a post:

Yesterday my router was acting up, so I had to use the communal laptop. She must have forgotten to log out, so when I went on, the browser was still open. I clicked on the browser history tab to see if I still had ebay on there, and I noticed the address for match.com. She has a profile there. Kind of offputting that she'd tell me, and the other female roommate that she's not looking for a relationship, when she's using an internet dating service. It didn't look like she's used it since last week though.

I bought some new silverware a couple of weeks ago, but never opened it. I wasn't sure if I wanted to keep it, so I left it in a drawer. Last night, before we talked, she opened it up, and washed everything.

Wednesday night I was out with a friend of mine. He met his wife a few years ago through me and my current roommate. He asked me how things were going, because he noticed how much she flirts with me. I told him what was basically going on, and he said it looks like this girl is already acting like she's in a relationship with me, but she's afraid to label it, or obviously give me what I want without presenting a challenge. I agree, but have to add that I feel like she's treating me like a surrogate until someone better comes along. Honestly, I can't blame her with how I've been acting.

Tonight I plan on staying in. She has to work in the morning, so she's not going anywhere either. I'm not sure if I should try making things more comfortable with her, or if I should just chill out in my room with a book and the door closed.

 

[Latinoman]

I got tired of reading.

You are going to college and instead of taking advantage of your studies and having fun (relationship free)...you are drawning in a river of drama at HOME!!!

Just move out and either have MALE roomates or better yet...live alone.

Date a lot...avoid relationships at such a young age...and focus on your school. Plain and simple.

 

[DonGorgon]

some of the stuff i see on this site is absolutely hilariarous..

so you finally hooked up with your roomamte since you told her your moving out..

then you DONT move out and stay and she stays.

NOW..... you want a "somewhat" relationship??

AND.. this girl supposedly watches porn EVERY night?

do as TM says, what ya got to lose...

lol

He is just being male .. his ego causes him to try and control her but he cant hence the frustration and this odd thread.

 

[MacAvoy]

Your biggest problem is your expecting to fvck her everynight because she is right there. Your expecting a relationship with her when in reality your only dating her. This is why I keep stressing that if you want any chance, you have to move out. Your making her the only focus of your dating pool.

Secondly your not her b/f so she is free to see other guys and has the right to suck on other guys kawk and have them bang her. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her having a profile on match.com or any other site. More importantly, you shouldn't be snooping, its pretty pathetic.

If you don't change your ways, its going to be really bad. Its not normal or healthy to see a person your just starting to date EVERYDAY.

But I'm just repeating what I've been telling you for a long time and you haven't listened and as a result your only digging yourself and blowing your chances with her.