"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I shouldnt even be thinking about this....

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*FOR EVERYONE'S INFO, IM STILL COMING DOWN FROM BEING DRUNK*

I know that ive mentioned this along time ago and it shouldnt even be given any thought, but I saw this girl I used to date tonigt. We were at a friends kickback and when I got there she was snuggling with her BF(my homeboy) on one of the chairs. I gave all the doods a handshake and all the girls a hug, but when I got to her all she gave me was a high 5 and didnt even look me in the face or bother to get up. I was there for a good 5-10 minutes when her and her boy were gonna leave. She aknowledged everyone and gave them a hug goodbye except me, so I went to her and said bye, and all she did was wave....for those who didnt know, me and her had a huge fight during the past summer but we patched sh!t up. She told me during our peace session that she might act *****y or indifferent around me for a while only because she might still be weirded out about our fight(i basically put her ass on blast and called her a shallow b!tch). But damn...that was like 3-4 months ago and I couldnt help but feel that she was seriously avoiding me tonight and we havent seen eachother since summer. I came there guns down and totally over the whole contreversey....Yea i know ill probably get flamed for this and be called a super AFC b!tch, but what did her actions really say tonight????
I thought we were good....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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other than the fact that she dislikes you, but does not want to be hated by anyone.

Words do NOT matter, actions DO matter. Look at her actions and you will see through those little facade of pleasantness to the fact that she hates your guts.

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comic_relief said:
other than the fact that she dislikes you, but does not want to be hated by anyone.

Words do NOT matter, actions DO matter. Look at her actions and you will see through those little facade of pleasantness to the fact that she hates your guts.

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thats what i figured....ahhh b!tches.
 

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oh man this is so easy. She is projecting on to you. i guarantee you she still has feelings for you and she hates herself for that. She knows she cant be with you so she projecting that hatered on you. That **** is so crazy i read that because i was just in class and one my professors was talkin bout your exact situation. Basically she is trying to love to hate you. Dont trip homie chick still on your nuts. Let her get drunk and watch her tru feelings come out..she is still sweatin you
 

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yungone said:
oh man this is so easy. She is projecting on to you. i guarantee you she still has feelings for you and she hates herself for that. She knows she cant be with you so she projecting that hatered on you. That **** is so crazy i read that because i was just in class and one my professors was talkin bout your exact situation. Basically she is trying to love to hate you. Dont trip homie chick still on your nuts. Let her get drunk and watch her tru feelings come out..she is still sweatin you
Interesting. I never thought of it like that. If anything, regardless if it were true or not, I would stay away from even thinking of that possibility to prevent oneitis and such. But anyways, I asked my sis about it a few days ago and she said that she might have been avoiding me to also avoid her BF getting jealous...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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