I've dated this girl for about a month, and I've recently told her that I didn't feel it would be right for me to be in a relationship so soon after my separation from my wife. I told her that I couldn't be there emotionally, but I would appreciate if she stuck around and hung out with me. I also told her that I would understand if she didn't want to. So, a couple days later she told me that she and some guy (Kevin I think she said) are planning to have a bunch of people go out. She invited me to come if I'd like. Is she trying to make me jealous here?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I she trying to make me jealous?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No she's not, but... Here's what I'd do - I'd go. While there you can pretty much sense what she's trying to do by identifying where her attention is - you or the guy.
If she IS actually trying to make you jealous, just suck it up and show how confident you are in yourself by not letting it affect you and seem very happy to be there. Then start making friends with whoever's there and never let her see you sweat. You see, when they play games or test you like that, always act as if you never noticed it.
If she IS actually trying to make you jealous, just suck it up and show how confident you are in yourself by not letting it affect you and seem very happy to be there. Then start making friends with whoever's there and never let her see you sweat. You see, when they play games or test you like that, always act as if you never noticed it.
I think she's trying to keep you around and is moving you into somewhere you'd be more open to being with her, a "safe haven". IOW, "You don't want to date me, but I still would like to see you, so maybe as part of a group date?" After all, you invited her to hang out with you, right?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
This is it.mzilla2 said:She is trying to establish herself as high(er) value by demonstrating that she's got other dudes that wanna take her out...
And, she is hoping to trigger a pursuit of her BY YOU as a result. She is trying to draw you into her or tempt you to date her or take her more seriously by raising her market value by telling you about her other "option".
It is a young woman's SOP , a Very old girly game -
Play if you want to- stay out if she is not so great...
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