"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I sent her a mess and she responded with her #

aron77

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So I sent this girl a message from a dating site and she took several days to respond, I had already said f her, but all of the sudden thursday she responds, I seem nice... sense of humor... she is "very interested" but she doesn't spend much time on that site so here is her number and she'd like to talk a little before we meet. I responded back with my number but told her I was pretty busy this weekend but I'd probably have some time to talk towards the end of the weekend or the begining of the week. I'd be more tempted to call sooner but I really am busy with work and the ufc tonight, that worked out well so I dont look too eager.

I don't want to spend too much time on the phone without meeting her nor am I much of a phone person so how much do I talk to her before I push to meet up? I'm thinking a couple of calls that I try to not let drag on too long and then try to pin her down but she seems suspicious and is a single mom so I don't want to be too pushy. However, I'm already a bit perplexed by her since I am relatively sure that she got my message the next morning when the site showed her logging in and then she doesn't respond for several days which would seem to indicate a lack of interest and now all of the sudden she says she is very interested and gives me her number.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alle_Gory

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It's probably code for: Quit being a woman and talk on the phone. Phone, not text.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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It only takes 3 minutes to call her and set something up. Quit being a little b*tch.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PDubb75

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aron77 said:
and is a single mom so I don't want to be too pushy.
The fact that she is a single mom should be why you ARE pushy. Do you think single moms have all the time in the world? They are raising a kid, that depending on age, might need babysitters for her to do anything. Make a date on your first call. She's not gonna drop everything to sit on the phone with you 5 times before you ask her on a date.

Stop worrying about her interest level based on when she responded to you. She gave you her number. Actions speak louder than words.
 
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r0cky

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If you had the time to come into this forum and write a post, you have time for a 5 minute phone call bud. Take action and leave the excuses behind.
 

teddy240

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Be ****y and fun, if it works well, she will ask you when your going to hang out.
 

LoneWolf

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gotta love when people say they are too busy to make a 5 minute phone call. that is just utter bs.
 
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