"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I seemed to be forcing escalation.

ARrocket

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I've seen this girl a couple times, but it seems like she's hesitant to me escalating things...like she doesn't want too much physical contact. She's really conservative in that regard (I can tell by her comments on things happening around us, etc), and it's sorta annoying. She seems to like me otherwise...have any of you guys come up against a girl like this? I have more details if they're wanted....
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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oh yeah, she's definitely not your average college slut. Perhaps because she immigrated here just a few years ago. And you're right...it's just so freaking cold, it's nice to stay inside and watch movies ;)
 

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I'm confused in regards to your motives. Do you want a LTR or do you want to get her in bed?

If you want to get her in bed, taking her out places is counter productive. Pop in a movie, keep the house cold, and share a blanket. Actually, that's what I would do either way in this particular case.
 

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everywomanshero said:
I'm confused in regards to your motives. Do you want a LTR or do you want to get her in bed?

If you want to get her in bed, taking her out places is counter productive. Pop in a movie, keep the house cold, and share a blanket. Actually, that's what I would do either way in this particular case.
Tried that. It led me to asking this question.
 
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