I screwed up.

[JLW]

I hooked up with a girl last week.

Hung out with her again today. Unfortunately I'm going to college in 4 days. Her only free day where our schedules coordinated was tonight. Basically I asked her to come over and hang out with a few friends with no real plan. We ended up doing nothing all night.

I basically blew it because I didn't have a plan for anything to do since there was nothing going on that night. Needless to say, no hook up.

In my defense, it was the only choice of a night for me to hang out with her since I was leaving for college.

But I still ****ed up.

What I learned from this is that I need to have to have a set plan when hanging out with a girl. This website says this all the time and it's quite true.

I really have no reason to post this other than to basically just vent because I feel pretty stupid about it. If you guys have any CONSTRUCTIVE criticism to add, please do so. Being an ******* about it won't help me much. I know I went into it in a very bad way since I didn't have a plan to do anything. Pretty much suicide.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Don't beat your self up, dude. Shyt happens to all of us from time to time. And judging by your post, you ALREADY know that the solution to your problem is "Have a PLAN".


So the only thing I would say to you is maybe try calling her up as soon as possible and schedule the next date-----and immediately let her know what that plan IS. And if she agrees to it and goes out with you, then no real harm done.

But if she hems and haws and hesitates (gives you the runaround WITHOUT accepting the date), then at least you'll KNOW to charge this chick "to the game"...then MOVE ON.

Or as I like to say on most of my posts...


...March on.

 

[Last Man Standing]

You had her isolated - what else do you want?? This tells me that you are lacking interactive skills! You don't necessarily need an activity - all you need is you and her!

 

[JLW]

You had her isolated - what else do you want?? This tells me that you are lacking interactive skills! You don't necessarily need an activity - all you need is you and her!

the problem is that we weren't isolated. Part of the problem with the plan. If it was just me and her chilling at my house it would have worked. But it was several friends, because I thought we'd go out and do something. But that "something" never came because it started pouring rain.

But yea, point taken, I should have figured out a way to get her isolated. It was harder than normal with 3-4 other people, but I think I should have figured out a better way to pull it off. I'll keep that in mind for the next girl/next date.

 

[Last Man Standing]

If you are leaving in a few days why are you around other people? How long have you been "together"?

 

[JLW]

If you are leaving in a few days why are you around other people? How long have you been "together"?

The reason why I am around other people is because I am going across the country to college, and I won't see them for several months.

This girl and I hooked up once, and it was last week. We aren't together by any means. I mean, she's cool, dont get me wrong, and I like her, but i'm not REAL into her or anything like that.


Truthfully its really not that big of a deal. I'm going to college where I will get more girls. It's just I would have liked for this to run more smoothly.

And on a side note, she just IM'ed me and I asked her if she wanted to go surfing during the day (we both surf), to which she replied "definitely." So I might still get a chance to get something before I leave for college.