I screwed up...really really bad.

[redbullfbu]

Alright DJ's listen to this if you wanna hear a f**ked up story. my gf went away to visit family for a few days. we had been going out for 5 months. and honestly, im only 17 and ive been in the game since i was 14 and i had been with A LOT of girls for a teenager, i know im young but still, she was the greatest thing that ever happened to me, yea we fought, but she was so unique, she was the kinda girl a DJ would stick with because they would never get tired of her. well anyways, we used to always chill with her best friend (who isnt that good looking)..and while my girl was gone the past few days i was partyin with her best friend, got real drunk 11-12 beers and a lot of DunQ (some wack alcohol right there.. shiz get u twisted), and did lortabs (ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION ANYBODY????) well im sure u can guess what happened, i got real drunk and f*cked her best friend the whole 9 yards....and it turns out MY BEST FRIEND (who is like a brother to my girl) told her for the own good of her...and there was no point in lying about it..i know she still loves me real deep down...but guys i really need some help with this one, im not ready to give up on her ive lost everything including her....damnit depression is starting to kick in.

 

[navyseal2101]

Say it wasn't worth it and the other girl wasnt as good, but you want to make sure shes better. Actually I would just tell her this story and say how fuked up it was, she may understand what all that alcohol etc. would do to your judgment. Honesty would be my choice.

 

[redbullfbu]

I told her that..she's not home yet so i was thinking of making her something

 

[Soyoushave]

I told her that..she's not home yet so i was thinking of making her something

Isn't that like trying to buy yourself out of it?

Just tell her in the eyes what you did, and take her out somewhere special (don't announce it 10 days ahead...just ask her the evening before or something)
With special I mean something romantic, something she won't forget soon.
It's not an AFC move to do something like that, just don't "I love you" her to death

I'd suggest you tell her that you are going to see a movie, or something else that's boring (or something you've done before)...then drive to the sea or a big lake or whatever has a beach and water. Take with you a bottle of wine, and I dunno, something to eat. Pick out a day where the moon is (almost) full.

Wow..sounds mega AFC? well, you've been seeing this girl for some time now,...so showing a little of your feelings is OK Just don't let her run over you.

I think that you can pull this of, just give her a special date...you might even make a pic, or take something from there (a nice seashell or something?) so she can remember this.

Of course she might feel bad about what happened, but, you showed her that you think she's special, rather than just buying your way out

 

[navyseal2101]

^^^

 

[redbullfbu]

yea but shes not gonna wanna be back with me and i cant do that ive lost my car cuz of some other shiz...so its hard to take a girl out when she wont let herself go

 

[Ravish]

As my first post on this truly enlightening forum, I must say you fuked up.

People make mistakes. You as a living, breathing human are not perfect. Nobody is asking you to be perfect. All your being asked is to imagine, from a girls perspective, what it would take to get back with the likes of you(no offense bro). I am pretty sure you have heard all that BS before about "once a cheater always a cheater." Well smarter men then the likes of you and I have fallen to this false saying. Lets face it , even if you do manage to score her back you will have trust issues plaguing you till the day you marry that ho(no offense, im sure shes very respectable).

Im not saying you shouldn't TRY and get back with her, all im saying is detach yourself a bit. Steel your heart, man, so it cannot be pierced by sword, hoof, or the fickle words of feminine fury.

In short, "Hope for the best, but make sure you got a rebound to help you flow back..."

Man 17 was a good age..... ......Im rootin for you boss man....

 

[Freeman]

bra youre young-thats it. When you get older theres no guarantee that you will learn the lesson... Know this...she may be great but the odds that you will be with this chick for more than a year is not good-whether its your fault or hers...you done a ****** thing-and you will answer for that believe me-Karma is mutha-it gets your as* when you least expect it...but its not the end of the world. you will play chicks and they WILL play you-its game we all play...

Remember: "Everything happens for a reason"

 

[redbullfbu]

yea well i just found out she f*cked someone up on vacation to get back at me....weeeeeeeeee

 

[Soyoushave]

yea well i just found out she f*cked someone up on vacation to get back at me....weeeeeeeeee

Lol

So at least you're even now

What are you going to do now?

I'm really wondering

 

[redbullfbu]

idk...its nasty cuz she went raw and she didnt know the guy less than 24 hours... i wrapped up and i knew the girl beforehand

 

[Soyoushave]

idk...its nasty cuz she went raw and she didnt know the guy less than 24 hours... i wrapped up and i knew the girl beforehand

Showing that she was only 'interested' in getting you back...

 

[redbullfbu]

so wtf i do then?

 

[Soyoushave]

Well,

seeing as I am on the side line, and thus feelingless, I'd say (like many) next her...get a clean start with a new girl.

Since you do have feelings, you could talk it out.

Important things;

-Speak about it once, untill all is spoken, then let it rest, don't (not even in a joke) bring it up again;
-Do something special together, so that you both see that those one night stands were wrong, and that you have feelings for eachother (blabla)
-Don't get too attached to her...that way, if things would go wrong, you're over it faster.

Does she still want to be with you btw?

 

[redbullfbu]

idk she doesnt know what to do.

 

[redbullfbu]

i know she still loves me, we still talk everyday, she wants me to go see her and s*it but idk how to act around her now that were broken up, i cant hold her, act like shes mine anymore...its just weird thats all.....but hopefully when she sees that im not doin that all that s*it i used to do she'll miss it and want me back

 

[Michael Chief]

If she dumped u for cheating on her, accept the consequences for your actions, and move on knowing that you've learned from this experience.