"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I Scored 100% on Approaching Women Quiz but...

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Thatfeel21

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as far as fear of approaching? haha...listen...it takes most females 15-45mins in the mirror, as well as tight ass jeans and super push up bras to be considered an "8"...when i check out the chick, i visually strip her, no not her clothes but her make up, fake highlights and butt enhancing jeans...try it and tell me what you think...
 

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that does is absolute crap
don't think that by getting 100% in that you have any skills
they give you one funny response and two bland ones every time, pfft

as for fear of approaching, start very small
eg smile at 10 girls while walking around anywhere
say hi to 10
ask a simple question "what's the time?"
ask an opinion
keep building it up and up
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Maxtro

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I find that it's much easier to talk to women that you are with a significant amount of time. Like girls in your class or work. Or if you are sitting down somewhere and you just start talking to the girls that are near you.

It's much harder to go up to random people and start talking to them out of nowhere.
 

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Georgek,

I believe the number one factor in being with women, is being comfortable with women.

Start out with any female frineds in your social circle, work, scholl, family gatherings, hobby areas.

Basically, learn how to have a conversation with females.
Make it a part of your life, and accept that your reality includes women.
Enjoy their company in a non outcome dependant mentality.
Ask questions, talk about interesting topics, and learn how to socialize.

You will notice your mannerisms, your facial expressions, and body language, tone of voice, postire, and eye contact. And also interesting, and witty things to say.
You will build a social personality.

You will realize that women are just people.
They are not godeses, or Queens. They are just people. It is perfectly natural to talk to females, and interact with them.
Women want you to approach them. Women are almost always into meeting new men, and love the idea of being swept off their feet.
Don't reject yourself before you've even begun to talk and interact with her.


Feel comfortable in that type of environment: Interacting with Women.

Next, understand that you have something to offer to women.
You are charming, funny, attractive, genuine, and well mannered, and know how to treat a woman like a real lady.
You will appreciate women, and enjoy their company. And you will enjoy doing fun things with them. bascially, you are good company.
You will be genuine in your interest, and be able to demonstrate that you are intersted in being more than just friends.
Bascially, you are a sex worthy man, and you cna exhude sexuality, and let her know you are interested in more than friends. You are comfortable with your sexuality, and are comfortable with women's sexuality. You do not condemn or judge them.
You are comfortable with your sexual desires, and comfortable in expressing it to the ladies.

Next, put into practice some simple skills.


Be approachable
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Smile when making eye contact. Say "hello" to strangers that make eye contact and especially if they smile at you initially.
Here's a secret.
Don't tell anyone this, it's top secret stuff:

If you are comfortable with your sexuality,and your natural masculine sexual desire for women, and genunely love and appreciate women.....they will notice "something" about you.

That "something" is approachability...and acceptance of women.
I call it a "Sexual Warmth".
(Most women initiate eye contact, smiling, and "hi" to me first. And generally, out of a crowd of men, most women will engage me first.)
This means you have no misogynistic tendencies at all, whatsoever. And naturally liove women, ALL women. You don't judge them (but you're not naive or AFC) but you accept them.



Make eye contact with women. Make and hold eye contact with women who "notice" you. Smile at them.
Keep practicing this. Pay attention to women's body language, expressions, and their eye contact.
Women often simply give in to their inital attraction and "look over" a man they are attracted to. If ther curiosity is piqued, they will look at you. If they are more interested , they will have repeated eye contact "glances".
Be comfortable, and confident in exchanging those "glances".

Learn a woman's "glances".
Capitalize on them.


Show interest. Sexuality charged interest.
Your eye contact says it all. Look at a woman sexually, and sensually.
Don't drool or ogle her. Don't stare at her breasts. Just look into her eyes, and give her the look that shows her you're a Mascukline Man who likes what he sees. Don't be intimidated. See her as a Woman. Not simply a semen recpetacle. this is big. This is huge. Women want to be desired for their beauty. Not purely becasue they ahve a vagina. To recognize inward/******d beauty of a womna is one of the most desired things a woman wants. Women want to be fabulously desired.
All that goes out the window when you stare at her tits.
Can you never do that?
Well, actually. yes. You can do that. Women want to be desired sexually as well. but it's up to you to find out when you can look her over with a sexual lust in your eyes.
Hint, it's not when you first meet her.
Women love to be looked at with desire in your eyes.

Learn this skill.

Once you re comfortable exchanging those glances, make and hold the eye conctact, and smile. Wacth to see what she does. If she stops, and smiles at you, that is your opportunity.
 

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thats funny..all you have to do is be able to tell the c&f lines apart from the AFC ones.............
 

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I did the first two questions on that test, it's hilarious. I like Interceptor's post. And personal experience (at least 50 approachs a month for 4 years) says if a woman looks at you twice it's no mistake so go approach. :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Approach Anxiety

I'm going to give you some brutally honest advice speaking from years of experience with this. First, don't waste any more of your time and/or money on ebooks, DVDs, online quizzes, etc. Spending your time and money on seduction products does the following:

1. It will confuse you since each guru's material conflicts with the other.
2. It will make you TOO ANALYTICAL and in your head to connect with women. It's called Paralysis of Analysis.
3. You will give your money to marketers, make them richer, and help THEM succeed with hot women, not you.

I tried for three years to CURE my approach anxiety. Fighting it didn't work. It just made me more shy and more paralyzed. It simply reinforced in my head that I was fighting the 800 lb. gorilla. How did I "cure" it?

I didn't. I let it go. Instead of beating myself up inside and feeling guilty for not doing a dozen approaches a night (like some community guys recommend), I set a simple rule for myself....

"If I REALLY want to approach her, I will. If I don't, I don't have to."

It took all of the pressure off. You will know when it feels right. There will be a girl that you really want to talk to and maybe you have a good vibe from her (maybe even eye contact) and you will just go over an speak to her naturally. If you aren't attracted to her, or you just aren't feeling anything for her for any reason, or she is showing NO signs of wanting to be approached, don't bother.

Approach on YOUR OWN TERMS, not what the community tells you. Throw out the three second rule, the dozen approaches, and all that community "approach machine" stuff. A true ladies man is selective. He isn't an approach machine. He is more like a hunter or sniper that waits for the right opportunity that serves his purpose.

Next, and I know a lot of ASF and even some Sosuave guys will disagree with this, but you really need to be yourself. You aren't Mystery or David D. You are George. Part of your anxiety comes from trying to be someone else and following someone else's approach and seduction road map. Just be you and it will take most of the pressure off.

Lastly, don't think for ONE SECOND that you CAN'T approach. I'm telling you that you can. You just need to take the pressure off of yourself. You do that by being yourself and approaching on YOUR terms, not what you read online.

This won't "cure" approach anxiety. You will still get a little bit, but it will no longer be an issue.

Remember you don't have to "cure" it. Stop trying to cure it. It's a trap to sell you more products and seminars. It's an infinite loop, a hamster in a squirrel cage, if you will.

Life live on YOUR terms and things like "approach anxiety" will be moot.

Good luck bro.

Mike
 
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