I met her through a friend one time...never really hung out with her again but do see her fairly often at gym/stores/bars in the area. She is a fukking babe - cute face with black hair with great body (thick ass and legs for days and days). I saw her about 2 weeks ago at a bar and was able to muster up the courage to talk to her for a few minutes and she was very friendly to me. I didn't feel any negative body language at all. I kept it going as long as I could (she had a big group of friends with her and they were all going home)
Anyways, I just couldn't muster up the courage to say anything to her tonight. I don't know what the hell is wrong with me - I just can't convince myself that I deserve to have a happy dating life. I keep hoping that external accomplishments will make me feel like I deserve to have an awesome woman who loves me but I just can't get there no matter how hard I push myself.
I think my problem is, from when I was fat, I convinced myself so thoroughly that dating is totally impossible and that women have completely impossible standards that I just can't get it out of my head. It's some kind of intense love shyness
You guys keep telling me the same advice - talk to everybody everywhere you go, well I make friends everywhere I go and am quite good as small talk with random strangers - as long as they're not attractive, classy, quality women my age. You tell me to date women below my league to build confidence to get the ones I really want...I've had sex with 12-14 women below my league and it helped slightly but I still feel like I don't deserve to have an awesome woman because I'm not impossibly perfect.
I think at a young age, I bought the media nonsense that the only way to get a girlfriend was to be a hollywood rockstar - be a 10/10 male with huge muscles and make 800K a year and have the best personality in the world, travel all over the world, have super charismatic pickup lines, etc... etc... etc... I just can't get it out of my head that women are not impossible. It's kind of a weird thing - my lack of dating life has pushed me so so so so so hard to strive for greatness in all areas of my life like work, money, fitness, lifestyle, etc.... but has simultaneously caused me so much misery because of my loneliness.
Anyways, I just couldn't muster up the courage to say anything to her tonight. I don't know what the hell is wrong with me - I just can't convince myself that I deserve to have a happy dating life. I keep hoping that external accomplishments will make me feel like I deserve to have an awesome woman who loves me but I just can't get there no matter how hard I push myself.
I think my problem is, from when I was fat, I convinced myself so thoroughly that dating is totally impossible and that women have completely impossible standards that I just can't get it out of my head. It's some kind of intense love shyness
You guys keep telling me the same advice - talk to everybody everywhere you go, well I make friends everywhere I go and am quite good as small talk with random strangers - as long as they're not attractive, classy, quality women my age. You tell me to date women below my league to build confidence to get the ones I really want...I've had sex with 12-14 women below my league and it helped slightly but I still feel like I don't deserve to have an awesome woman because I'm not impossibly perfect.
I think at a young age, I bought the media nonsense that the only way to get a girlfriend was to be a hollywood rockstar - be a 10/10 male with huge muscles and make 800K a year and have the best personality in the world, travel all over the world, have super charismatic pickup lines, etc... etc... etc... I just can't get it out of my head that women are not impossible. It's kind of a weird thing - my lack of dating life has pushed me so so so so so hard to strive for greatness in all areas of my life like work, money, fitness, lifestyle, etc.... but has simultaneously caused me so much misery because of my loneliness.