I Refuse to Spend This Summer Celibate

[MikeyBoi]

Hey everybody, this is a first post, but I've been reading this site forever. I'm a college student, age 21, home for summer. NONE of my friends are in town for summer, and I am working quite a bit as a delivery guy.

Although I could very easily let this be a lame summer, I absolutely refuse. I want some nakedness action in these next couple months. So I figured I'd post and update you all as to my progress.

A word about my strategy for getting women. I've been trying to master this arena of my life for about four years now. I've tried David D's stuff and either it sucks in general or it is just not the right system for me. I've tried being an arrogant bastard and that doesn't work either. I've tried being aggressive, nonchalant, funny, goofy, quiet, mysterious...so far no system or attitude can consistently get me the kind of woman action I want. The only thing that can truly help me is more self-respect and a deep-seated confidence.

So my posts are not going to be based on strategies or tricks, but (hopefully) a different kind of mindset. One that acknowledges that I am absolutely just as good as any other guy out there.

In this journal you will see my various attempts at meeting women and getting to know them and hopefully getting some physical stuff happening. I'm not a virgin but pretty close, and it's safe to say my sexual appetite is raging and hitherto unsatisfied. But I have a good feeling about this summer.

More to come

And yes, I typed this all in five minutes.

Best,
Mikey

 

[Luveno]

Hey man,

best thing to do is stop trying to get sex.

Instead, hone your abilities. Learn things. Do things because you enjoy them, not because it will impress a girl enough to sleep with you.

I personally believe these personality "techniques" that David D and other "gurus" teach are crap. The only one I ever found somewhat useful was Doc Love. He didn't teach personality tricks - he really only delved into the female psyche as far as I can remember.

Be who you are,and do what you want. Don't compromise for sex. That is weakness, and weakness isn't attractive.

 

[bobbob]

stop trying to get sex = you won't get sex.

I know this from experience. If you ignore women totally, and focus on some other part of your life, YOU WILL NOT get women if you weren't getting women before.

Understand? Meaning, if you aren't so good looking, magnetic, rich, or aren't around women in general, they aren't going to suddenly start flocking to you just because you stop chasing.

However, if you're surrounded by women on a regular basis, then ya, doing your own thing can work (I have a friend who is in exactly this sort of situation - average guy, but because he's aloof and doesn't try to date any of the women in his social circle, they all want him).

It sounds from your post though (I could be wrong) that there just aren't many women (or any women) in your circle.

If it makes you feel better, I'm about 5 years older than you and I'm in the same situation

Take classes, message girls online, go to malls, beach, whatever. CA's have a very low success rate and really are just for building your confidence.

99% of the battle is believing that you'll succeed - since you do believe, I think you'll succeed as well. Keep us updated!

 

[Caldus]

Hey I understand man. I'm not even looking for a relationship, just some ass. I'm not going to get desperate about it though. Might as well just enjoy other things in life until you finally do get some ass. I do agree with the other poster though that you still won't get women by doing your own thing. I have no women in my life either so don't feel bad.

 

[Ricky]

#1 thing is to talk to as many of all ages, race, shape and size as you can. Get good at teasing them all.

 

[undesputable]

Originally posted by MikeyBoi


And yes, I typed this all in five minutes.

Honestly man who the **** cares if you typed this in 1 hour or 5 mins? this is why youre not getting any *****, maybe if you can keep yourself from saying stupid **** you can get some.

 

[MikeyBoi]

Wow undesputable, your intellect is stunning. I mean it. Seriously. You really made a difference there.

 

[ketostix]

Originally posted by bobbob
stop trying to get sex = you won't get sex.

I know this from experience. If you ignore women totally, and focus on some other part of your life, YOU WILL NOT get women if you weren't getting women before.

Understand? Meaning, if you aren't so good looking, magnetic, rich, or aren't around women in general, they aren't going to suddenly start flocking to you just because you stop chasing.

However, if you're surrounded by women on a regular basis, then ya, doing your own thing can work (I have a friend who is in exactly this sort of situation - average guy, but because he's aloof and doesn't try to date any of the women in his social circle, they all want him).

It sounds from your post though (I could be wrong) that there just aren't many women (or any women) in your circle.

If it makes you feel better, I'm about 5 years older than you and I'm in the same situation

Take classes, message girls online, go to malls, beach, whatever. CA's have a very low success rate and really are just for building your confidence.

99% of the battle is believing that you'll succeed - since you do believe, I think you'll succeed as well. Keep us updated!

I totally agree. You have to get out there, meet people (all kinds of people for networking but primarily girls) and put the effort in or nothing's likely to happen. I never got this idea some people have that being aloof and mysterious is going to attract all the girls. If anything they'll be curious about your behavior but more likely than anything they'll assume you're a shy, loser psycho rather than a non-needy guy. And even if a girl opens you now and then, your game will be so rusty you won't know what to do or how to lead her to a close. You'll likely just get blown out quickly, just you won't have too many other opportunities because you're waiting for the girls to open you, instead of going after any and ever girl you want.

Cold approaches have a low success rate for most guys but they can lead to things. And if you don't have a current social circle, how else are you going to meet chicks?

 

[Brad324]

If you use David D's stuff as a technique, then it won't work for you. You need to BE YOURSELF and be CONGRUENT if you're going to have any success with women. David D's stuff is useful once you've ALREADY got your life together. His stuff is more useful to teach what women want and why they act like they do. Just listening to his audio stuff and reading his material will change your BELIEFS. And it's the change in your BELIEFS that will change how you act.

Techniques should not be used as a tool to manipulate women, but as a way of communicating who you are, rapidly and effectively.

 

[Caldus]

Cold approaches have a low success rate for most guys but they can lead to things. And if you don't have a current social circle, how else are you going to meet chicks?

So we have to do cold approaches then? Where at? Would the gym work?

 

[bobbob]

Originally posted by Caldus
So we have to do cold approaches then? Where at? Would the gym work?

No, use more imagination than that ... CAs really are only good for building your balls. Do something more imaginative, like taking a class. do yoga or something.

Yes to CAs, but don't rely on them exclusively, is what I'm trying to say. peace and good luck to all of us