I REALLY need your help/advice about a situation...

[Axcell]

Calling EVERYBODY especially girls to help me out, guy advice is REALLY appreciated as well.

I normally help a lot of guys in this forum out with their problems, as well as my friends, however, this situation requires the opinion of many people so I am exposed to many view to make a certain decision.

Hey guys/girls - I do not normally come here for relationship problems, but I need the opinions of a wide range audience, and I figured I would ask here.
For starters, I am 17 years old, I'm in grade 11 at the moment. About 3 months ago, I heard from a couple of girl friends that this girl had a thing for me, but after a week, I found out it was only temporary.

A month later, her feelings returned very STRONG - she is practically obsessed about me right now. I should also note that I am somewhat used to this, about 8 other girls liked me in the same month as her. (She knew that as well.)
Anyway, me and her are good friends, and have been good friends for a month. We started talking about a month ago, it turned to very long phone conversations, texting in class, and seeing each other once every week. (As FRIENDS.)

I was on the phone with her about a 1.5 weeks ago, and she told me she REALLY liked me - which I knew at the time.. but a part of me did not want to hear it, as I did not feel exactly the same way... I liked her a BIT.
What I mean by this is this: Some days I feel like I like her more than others, and I am starting to question whether you just experience that feeling when you meet a brand new person and find them interesting to talk to.
I broke up with my girlfriend about 3 months ago, because she was cheating on me.. and it is not that I do not feel I want to be in relationship or not that I am not ready, I just do not feel it with this girl. I should note that this girl is one year younger than me. (It will be important as you read more below..)
At the time on the phone, I kept her hanging.. (Which is bad, I know) But I did not know what to tell her. I met her once after that, a week after she confessed she liked me, all we did was talk really well.. and we gave each other a hug at the end of the day.

However, yesterday, we met at her school... we talked for the first half hour.. and than she asked for a hug, and when I gave her one.. she gave me a kiss. And she asked me to return the favor, and I did... I feel like I got so caught up in the moment.
I mean, during that time I did not even think these things.. what I might be getting into, I might be leading her on, etc etc. But I told her I was not interested in a relationship before she kissed me, she didn't even mind! I said I wasn't too interested to be in a relationship, and she said the same thing.. but yet I felt so guilty. I possibly slipped that I liked her too... but that doesn't mean anything.

She has NEVER had a boyfriend before, nor has she had her first kiss. (Till yesterday.) So NO, she is not a slut.. she's actually a really sweet girl, even though yesterday ended up being... well... she was practically grinding on me the whole time.

I just do not know what to do, I hope she doesn't feel that I want something... or that yesterday was just a "one night stand" or something a long the lines of that... I do not want her to regret it, or feel that I just used her for all the "fun".. because it is not like that. I feel so guilty, and I do not know how to tell her..

I need your help guys. Feel free to ask any questions if it will help you answer my question better. I do not know what is going to happen with this girl!
Thanks,
Nick.

 

[shydude]

Whats up, this is normal man. From looking at this i can already see that you never been a ladys man, havent had good Girl FRIENDS! You are in a friends zone right now, and thats were you wanna be! cmon lol dont be scared to give her a kiss a hug, or a slap in the @ss! not only that, but other chicks love man that have GirlFRIENDS, it gives them a challenge, women dont want nerd boys that hang out with 300 pound guys with thick glasses and etc. they want men that chill with popular kids, women and etc. i know im going a bit of topic lol, soo ill stop. Everything that your doing is normal, dont worry, just play it cool and confident and continue scoring chicks.

 

[Axcell]

But I start to feel as if I am treating her as a rebound - I do not want to lead her on or anything.. she might think I took advantage of her. She is a year younger than me, and does not have much experience with boys at all.
And actually, I am quite the lady's man - I've just gotten myself removed at that stage because I want to be considered as the "relationship" type guy to many girls... it just seems its being attracted to all the girls who I do not want to be in a relationship with lol.
FYI: I believe the only reason she became attracted to me was because I gave her that challenge.

Thanks for the advice though - appreciate it!

 

[Serialized3]

I don't usually post in this forum, but I suppose I could add some perspective here.

Well, first of all, you need to figure out what you want. It sounds like you want to be just friends, but sometimes you want more than that (sex? relationship?). Sort that out first.

Then just be honest and upfront with her about what you want. Sounds like you're already doing that so keep it up. If she's really so sweet and innocent she'll appreciate your honesty. Just be advised that she said that she isn't looking for a relationship, so she might just be looking for someone to experiment with. Or she could be actually be looking for a relationship but wanted to agree with you when she said she wasn't.

 

[Docs]

I normally help a lot of guys in this forum out with their problems, as well as my friends, however, this situation requires the opinion of many people so I am exposed to many view to make a certain decision.

You have, 1 more post then I can count with my fingers and thumbs on this board. My ass you've helped a lot of people on the board.

So, you have a girl that gives you interest, and you're worried about leading her on? Pleeease, you're only 17, date her and get some experience, because you clearly lack in it.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Be "friends with benefits!"

 

[Axcell]

I figured out what I want - I want to be friends.. I just need help conveying that to her. I mean, she knows I do not want a relationship... and she says she doesn't regret anything yesterday, what do I tell her when she asks me the same thing? I do not know how to make things like before, back to the way they were when me and her were just friends.

 

[Plec07]

Now that you know what you want you have two options in my opinion.

1. You give her the classic LJBF speech and hope she picks it up.
2. You change the attention you give her. This can be tricky because if you simply withdraw attention you'll make her miss you and it'll have the opposite effect. You need to change the attention you give her, talk to her as a friend so that she won't feel neglected, but at the same time tone down the kino a bit, possibly don't tease her as much, that sort of thing. It all depends on how you are with everybody else. I suppose the best way I can put it is to treat her like a guy mate.

 

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[Axcell]

Thanks Plec07 - I shall try that. Any other quick suggestions? I am seeing her in a few days.