"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I really need to help my boss wake up to BS female theatrics.....

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A few years ago I worked for this guy. In order of seniority, it was one girl, me, then another girl, then a guy. Age and hire date seniority that is, but not that it matters really, since this was a private corporation. Well, the way he ran the group, it sort of breeded competition among the 4 of us, and you know how that can be with women, especially in this day and age. I eventually got an opportunity to move, so I did it. The girls there didn't directly affect this decision, but they made it easier.

Fast forward 4 years, and I moved to where I am now. I am still under the boss indirectly, but in a different office. Well, the guy that was still there (#4 in seniority), has now taken an opportunity to move and is leaving. He saw the same things I did from the 'women'. Again, it didn't make his decision, but certainly made it easier.

How can I make this guy (the boss) understand what's going on among his team? He's always held the men to a higher standard and made up for the women's short-comings. I almost think he's afraid of them. Why do I care, you ask? Well, because I'm still linked to that team and will need them to prepare some work for me from time to time. I don't really prefer his management style, but at this point I really don't have a choice.

For a little more background, he splits up projects and assigns them to each of us, therefore putting us all out there on islands. That then breeds competitions sort of like salesmen. I am trying to get him to integrate everybody and start using each others' strengths so we can all work together for the common good of our business. I don't know, I mean his business plan has worked OK so far, he makes money. I just really think we're stagnant.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not sure I understand what you're asking. What guy - the guy who's leaving?
 

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speed dawg said:
Well, the guy that was still there, has now taken an opportunity to move and is leaving. He saw the same things I did from the 'women'.
So what were they doing?
 

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TyTe`EyEz said:
Not sure I understand what you're asking. What guy - the guy who's leaving?
Sorry, it is now clarified in the OP.
 

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zekko said:
So what were they doing?
Very competitive, and anti-team. They sort of team up together sometimes, but at the end of the day, they even compete among themselves.

This really wouldn't be an insurmountable problem if it weren't for my boss. He's afraid to say anything to them. He's great at what he does, but his personal and management skills could use work. He even said at one time that the competition among the team is a good thing, to which I disagreed.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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