I posted this in the regular discssion forum by mistake and meant to post it in the Mature man forum:
I have been dating this female for about one year now. We work at the same place. We sometime even work together. We have mostly been keeping our relationship a secret because she said she did not know what my intentions were and that the men in my profession have a bad reputation of asking the women out in our workplace just to screw them and dump them. I cannot deny this accusation so I wnet along with her wishes. She told a few of her coworkers that we were dating but whenever we see each other at work, we say little to each other so no one would know our business. Meanwhile, I have been spending nights with her and her son has grown attached to me and look at me as a father figure which I do not mind.
Every since we have been dating, she has been telling me about one of our other coworkers always come on to her. She told me that he always corners her in one of the rooms and she turns him down although she never told him that she had a boyfriend. The guy and I speak to each other all the time and I never held any thing against him because I figured he did not know we were dating anyway.
Anyway, the woman and I broke up a few months ago for about two months then we got back together. She told me that the coworker was really trying hard to get with her then and her friends at work were trying to push her to date him. I told her that he keeps on trying to hook up with her because she won't tell him that she is dating someone else and as long as she pretends that she is available, he will keep trying. I began to wonder if she was just giving me updates on this situation just in case she did try to talk to him, she would have her tracks covered and say "I always told you he was flirting with me." She said she thought he was ugly and she could never give him the light of day because she was not attracted to him.
So we have been back together since June. I began to notice that her behavior would change whenever we had little spats. She used to try to resolve things but now, she would say nothing and just let tension build up. There was one whole week when we were not calling each other much and I wondered why she wasn't blowing up my phone like she usually would. I avoided calling her since it seem as if she wanted to end the relationship but none of the spats were ever big enough to end the relationship.
Last night, this chic who I dated while her were broke up called me while we were laying in the bed. She asked me who it was, I told her that it was my cousin and I didn't answer the phone. I should have been straight up but I was afraid that I would look like I was cheating on her if she found out it was my ex. I checked my voicemail this morning and the chic said she only was calling because she saw that I called her so she was returning my call. She said that if I did not mean to call her then I do not have to call her back. I deleted the voicemail and the call log.
So here it is:
After I deleted the voicemail, I went downstairs to use her PC. Her phone was right next to her PC. I have been noticing over the past couple of months that she never leaves her cellphone laying around anymore. So I looked through her call log and I saw that she had been calling our coworker and he has been calling her. A lot!! According to the call log, they have been calling each other every since we had broken up. The last time I saw that they talked to each other in the log was on September 1st which is the day I started working in her department for the month. So for the past week her, our cowroker and I have been working together in a isolated work enevironment along with other workers. I saw that she has been calling him and he has been calling her at 1 and 2 o clock in the morning and even on days she has been off. That week when we were not talking to each other very much, she was talking to him...a lot.
I went back upstairs and I ran into her, she walked up to me and asked where was I. I told her I was using the PC. I looked at my cellphone which I left with her in the room and saw that it was lit up as if someone had been using it. My cellphone usually turn off after 30 seconds of inactivity and I made sure I turned it off before I went downstairs. She had been going through my phone as well btu i did delete that call log from my ex.
I pretended as if nothing was wrong. before I left for work, I kissed her and told her that I will come back to spend a night tonight.
I am wondering what is the best way to approach this. I am working with our coworker right now. I was wondering if I should call her and tell her what I found out and demand that she tell me the truth or I will confront our coworker and ask him. On the other hand, I can just go back to her place as I originally planned and just confront her with it. I know she would just throw the incident involving that mysterious call to my cellphone last night back in my face but I honestly was innocent in that regard. I somehow, mistakenly dialed my ex's number. I need some feedback here.
I have been dating this female for about one year now. We work at the same place. We sometime even work together. We have mostly been keeping our relationship a secret because she said she did not know what my intentions were and that the men in my profession have a bad reputation of asking the women out in our workplace just to screw them and dump them. I cannot deny this accusation so I wnet along with her wishes. She told a few of her coworkers that we were dating but whenever we see each other at work, we say little to each other so no one would know our business. Meanwhile, I have been spending nights with her and her son has grown attached to me and look at me as a father figure which I do not mind.
Every since we have been dating, she has been telling me about one of our other coworkers always come on to her. She told me that he always corners her in one of the rooms and she turns him down although she never told him that she had a boyfriend. The guy and I speak to each other all the time and I never held any thing against him because I figured he did not know we were dating anyway.
Anyway, the woman and I broke up a few months ago for about two months then we got back together. She told me that the coworker was really trying hard to get with her then and her friends at work were trying to push her to date him. I told her that he keeps on trying to hook up with her because she won't tell him that she is dating someone else and as long as she pretends that she is available, he will keep trying. I began to wonder if she was just giving me updates on this situation just in case she did try to talk to him, she would have her tracks covered and say "I always told you he was flirting with me." She said she thought he was ugly and she could never give him the light of day because she was not attracted to him.
So we have been back together since June. I began to notice that her behavior would change whenever we had little spats. She used to try to resolve things but now, she would say nothing and just let tension build up. There was one whole week when we were not calling each other much and I wondered why she wasn't blowing up my phone like she usually would. I avoided calling her since it seem as if she wanted to end the relationship but none of the spats were ever big enough to end the relationship.
Last night, this chic who I dated while her were broke up called me while we were laying in the bed. She asked me who it was, I told her that it was my cousin and I didn't answer the phone. I should have been straight up but I was afraid that I would look like I was cheating on her if she found out it was my ex. I checked my voicemail this morning and the chic said she only was calling because she saw that I called her so she was returning my call. She said that if I did not mean to call her then I do not have to call her back. I deleted the voicemail and the call log.
So here it is:
After I deleted the voicemail, I went downstairs to use her PC. Her phone was right next to her PC. I have been noticing over the past couple of months that she never leaves her cellphone laying around anymore. So I looked through her call log and I saw that she had been calling our coworker and he has been calling her. A lot!! According to the call log, they have been calling each other every since we had broken up. The last time I saw that they talked to each other in the log was on September 1st which is the day I started working in her department for the month. So for the past week her, our cowroker and I have been working together in a isolated work enevironment along with other workers. I saw that she has been calling him and he has been calling her at 1 and 2 o clock in the morning and even on days she has been off. That week when we were not talking to each other very much, she was talking to him...a lot.
I went back upstairs and I ran into her, she walked up to me and asked where was I. I told her I was using the PC. I looked at my cellphone which I left with her in the room and saw that it was lit up as if someone had been using it. My cellphone usually turn off after 30 seconds of inactivity and I made sure I turned it off before I went downstairs. She had been going through my phone as well btu i did delete that call log from my ex.
I pretended as if nothing was wrong. before I left for work, I kissed her and told her that I will come back to spend a night tonight.
I am wondering what is the best way to approach this. I am working with our coworker right now. I was wondering if I should call her and tell her what I found out and demand that she tell me the truth or I will confront our coworker and ask him. On the other hand, I can just go back to her place as I originally planned and just confront her with it. I know she would just throw the incident involving that mysterious call to my cellphone last night back in my face but I honestly was innocent in that regard. I somehow, mistakenly dialed my ex's number. I need some feedback here.
