Well Ive been with this girl for about 2 months now. We have an awesome time together and she tells me shes really into me and all that. For the last few days she has been acting really really shady. So last night I called her on it and basically said quit acting shady, wtf kinda games are you trying to play. Then she comes out and sais that she has this ex that she broke up with just before we met that has been bugger alot. Supposedly she met up with him the other day for just a "couple minutes to give him back some things and get her crap back also". The guy calls her like 40-50 times a day, textes her probably about the same amount, and for the most part she never responds. A couple 2-3 minute fone calls in there but thats about it. He seems to have they idea that their still together but she sais theres no chance. I just get this gut feeling that shes full of BS. Should I give this girl the benefit of the doubt, or next her? How can and make sure she isnt trying to play some game off both of us guys at the same time?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I really need some advice.
- Thread starter C-money
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Last Man Standing
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Trust your gut and do some reconnaissance - and as Francisco's patented response says - "Beware of being the 'rebound guy''!!
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The minute I seen your thread, I immediately thought she was branch swing. This stuff gets me to no end. Drop the b1tch. They need to learn that its not acceptable.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Last Man Standing said:
C-money, has she been treating you any differently? Has she said anything about not enjoying your relationship? Did she readily offer the information about the problems she's having with the ex or is she really hiding something? What exactly is she doing that's "shady?"
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I agree, Maybe you should tell her to tell the guy to get a clue and figure out that it is over between them and stop calling her and get a damn life. Tell her to do it in front of you and if she hesitates or say's no that's mean then say "Well it is over isnt it?" If she still doesnt do it drop her right then and there, there is no point in wasting time on a girl that talks to her ex and the other guy still thinking they are togethor.