Well Ive been with this girl for about 2 months now. We have an awesome time together and she tells me shes really into me and all that. For the last few days she has been acting really really shady. So last night I called her on it and basically said quit acting shady, wtf kinda games are you trying to play. Then she comes out and sais that she has this ex that she broke up with just before we met that has been bugger alot. Supposedly she met up with him the other day for just a "couple minutes to give him back some things and get her crap back also". The guy calls her like 40-50 times a day, textes her probably about the same amount, and for the most part she never responds. A couple 2-3 minute fone calls in there but thats about it. He seems to have they idea that their still together but she sais theres no chance. I just get this gut feeling that shes full of BS. Should I give this girl the benefit of the doubt, or next her? How can and make sure she isnt trying to play some game off both of us guys at the same time?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I really need some advice.
- Thread starter C-money
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Trust your gut and do some reconnaissance - and as Francisco's patented response says - "Beware of being the 'rebound guy''!!
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The minute I seen your thread, I immediately thought she was branch swing. This stuff gets me to no end. Drop the b1tch. They need to learn that its not acceptable.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Last Man Standing said:
C-money, has she been treating you any differently? Has she said anything about not enjoying your relationship? Did she readily offer the information about the problems she's having with the ex or is she really hiding something? What exactly is she doing that's "shady?"
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I agree, Maybe you should tell her to tell the guy to get a clue and figure out that it is over between them and stop calling her and get a damn life. Tell her to do it in front of you and if she hesitates or say's no that's mean then say "Well it is over isnt it?" If she still doesnt do it drop her right then and there, there is no point in wasting time on a girl that talks to her ex and the other guy still thinking they are togethor.