"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I really need a cheer up...

SandHawk

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I really need a cheer me up, my life just went to hell in an instant. Turns out the college I attend ****ed up billing and I owe them around 1000 euros in 1 go, which I don't have.

I came back yesterday from the Sziget festival in Hungary, found a stack of bills. On top of that found out that I'm going to lose a substantial part of my income, which is the part that I used to save money off for vacations and travelling and partially to live from. So I probably won't be able to travel for a while AND really have to pay attention to how I spend my money and then to top it off, the girl I was dating and fell in love with, lied about a lot of things to me.

When I returned from a quick toilet break, I found her crying and shivering on the couch. After she fessed up a few things, I walked back to the my bathroom, got her hairbrush, took her shoes and dumped it all in front of her with the message to get the **** out of my house. Each and every time I see to lose myself into a girl, they turn out to either lie or do stuff that breaks my thrust in them.

So now I'm back to being in financial problems, heartbroken and no plates. Cold approaches really don't seem to work with Dutch people for some reason, because every time I try, I hardly get a response or a really short crappy conversation. Maybe I'm bad at it, but I've never actually had a good conversation from a cold approach.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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wait_out

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Here's a quote from a friend that got me through some tough times.

"Look on the bright side... at least you're not charged with 2nd degree murder"
 

jophil28

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SandHawk said:
Each and every time I see to lose myself into a girl, they turn out to either lie or do stuff that breaks my thrust in them.
Don't mean to make light of your suffering, but this was priceless >

"...they..do stuff that breaks my THRUST in them." :crackup:
 

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I like to use a quote a buddy of mine told me that gets me through tough times:
"Work hard, be cool, the hardship is only temporary."

The way I interpret it, whether it be school or your job, work hard and be the good reliable employee/student. Be cool. While ur doing your work, be that uplifting fun guy to be around. And what ever struggles you are going through, its only temporary. The better times are ahead.
 

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its hard to do but cheer up...life is a *****...probably the queen b of *****es...but you know what your just the guy to f@ck her up and get back in line..

Sometimes stuff has to get worse to get better...about the girl...one thing i have learnt is that girls who lie aint worth it...so consider yourself lucky
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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grayclif

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Really! Things got a little more expensive this year and you can't vacation and you broke up with your girlfriend. Welcome to the real world.
 

Trader

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SandHawk said:
I really need a cheer me up
Are you a girl who needs to vomit her emotions?

SandHawk said:
My life just went to hell in an instant. Turns out the college I attend ****ed up billing and I owe them around 1000 euros in 1 go, which I don't have.
So you are 1000 EUR in debt, and you claim this causes your life to 'go to hell'

You really need to get some perspective.


SandHawk said:
I came back yesterday from the Sziget festival in Hungary, found a stack of bills. On top of that found out that I'm going to lose a substantial part of my income, which is the part that I used to save money off for vacations and travelling and partially to live from.
At least you have a job, be grateful


SandHawk said:
So I probably won't be able to travel for a while AND really have to pay attention to how I spend my money
You sound like quite the girl, "But now I have to cut back and won't be able to afford my designter clothes for a while!'


Your problem (or lackthereof) can be solved with this epic quote from Kobe Bryant: 'Just man the hell up, I don't see what the problem is.'
 

ken chang

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Hey, I'm new here. This is my very first post.

What I like to do when I get really down is watch a good ol' school action movie. A MAN action movie like The Expendables or Undisputed 3, not a GIRLY action movie like Resident Evil or Charlie's angels. Never watch GIRLY action movies. That will depress you more in my opinion.

When I watch an old school action movie, it always puts things into perspective and makes me say things like,"Holy crap! Jason Statham's girlfriend just left him for another guy who is now physically abusing her! And I thought my problems were bad!".

My point is, these old school action heroes have bigger problems than we do, and they take it like a man and deal with it like men do. It really makes our problems seem smaller.

Give it a try! Hope this cheers you up some.

PS: I am not telling people to resort to violence like these action heroes do, just take the bad times like they do.
 
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