"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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regular_guy said:
Hey Interceptor, What do you mean by interest. I understand attraction, where you want her physically. Would interest mean you want her mentally, intimacy?
Please PM me.

Cheers,

Don't show a woman you are INTERESTED before she has provided you with something that actually interest you other than herphysical body.


Never apologize or feel guilty you are attracted to women.
And never apologize or feel guilty for showing you are attracted to her and flirting with her.


But you do not 'give out the farm" at the first meeting.
You do not "wear your Heart on your sleeve."
You do not act afrauid of losing her when you barely even know her.
You do not act ovelry 'interested" in things that are not interesting to you.
You do not display any romantic behavior (flowers, cards, gifts, 'romantic candle light dinners.") BEFORE you even know anything about this woman.
Being attracted is normal.

(women want to "feel" your attraction and desire for them. But they often feel we HIDE it from them.)


Being INTERESTD means you are interested in making an emotional investement in her.

You feel she has value to you more than just sex really.

You: "Yeah, so the other day I was working out and I had a real good workout.."
her: "Oh, thats sexy, I love wroking out too. I do Pilates and Tai Chi, and jog every morning!"
You: "WOW, that's cool. I like a woman who is into fitness and has a healthy lifestyle. You do Tai CHi too? That's great.I've looked into it, but I never tried it. Tell me more about it, babe."
her: Oh, yeah, I love it! I go to this park with a real master instructor and blah blah blah
You; "That's so cool. I'm also getting into martial arts, and like I said, I looked at some Tai Chi and its benefits...
Her:"Oh, I used to do Kung Fu in Seattle for ten years. What a cool coincidence, you're into martial art?"
You: Yeah! Wow we have so much in common..yada yada yada"

Whatever, you get the picture.
The guy is IOIing on the commonalities and similarities and the desired VALUE he finds. He likes women who are into fitness. She demonstrates this value. He acknowledges it. Move further in to the "geting to know you" stage. Now at some point escalating (kino, closer proximity, and miore sensual suggestive eye contact) to "We should hang out sometime! Gimme your number where I can reach you." is MORE "NATURAL" and EXPECTED!!!

And so on.


You only IOI on the things that GENUINELY "interest" YOU.
That way it is genuine, And it is normal and natural to ESCALATE now.
You see?



Do not just hand out your heart and interest (time, effort, love, affection, peace of mind, financial resources, food l,odging, etc) to ANYONE who has not deserved in according to your cirteria.

Women will really dislike any overly romantic stuiff and too much "interest" in the early stages becaue she know she HAS NOT EARNED it.

And ONLY A DESPERATE, NEEDY GUY with No OPTIONS,and an overly fanatsized notion of love and romance will "display his love" or "show his feelings" too early , before she knows she has earned it.

When you do that, you throw a 'monkey wrench" into the seuction, and throw her off and put her off. You KILL attraction actually.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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