"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I really like this girl...but...weird situation

Does she like me/do I have a chance?


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shyguyarrgh

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Well...

She stared at me through most of choir today. She left without me even approaching her. Her and her friends were all in a little huddle talking about something at one point. I waited for her after school and apologized....basically it was an apology for messing with her emotions. I didn't say that, but she proceeded to say, "Yeah, its kinda weird..." (with a smile). Then she left. It was really uncomfortable and awkward for both of us. I don't think I am misreading her signals. No more notes, though. What can I say? What should I say? Just initiate a conversation? Things are already awkward as they are, but I still think she is into me at least a little.

Have I mentioned yet that she is 1.5 feet taller than I am? Its no big deal to her, me, or anyone else though.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Donsing

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Woah, is he 6 ft plus. I have not read the thread but best thing is to look in the bible to give you help.
 

shyguyarrgh

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Also, I said that I wished I drank because I would have an excuse. She laughed uncomfortably. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO AND WHAT TO SAY I AM DESPERATE! I am not going to use notes anymore though.
 

shyguyarrgh

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I haven't told anyone yet but this friday the choir is going to the state music competition. We all are riding the bus. That will prolly be awkward unless I can do something tomorrow. I MUST TALK TO HER. But, what to say?!!!!!!!!!?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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shyguyarrgh

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Could it only be a coincidence that:

Her crossed leg points at me/ other physical signs happen alot
Her eyes dialate when I look into them
Her friend told me that she likes me (4-5 months ago)
She was flirtatious with me when I tried to get her to sign my yearbook
She came to that event when I had mentioned it in a note and she showed up in the hot red tanktop
She seems to always pick the seat next to me on bus choir trips

Or could it all just be my hormones? I am confused. After her saying that it was weird (she smiled). And after she did the awkward laugh thing when I said I wish I drank a lot so that I would have an excuse. I got the impression that maybe it is. But all of those factors. These are the only negative ones that I have recieved so far. I am sure tomorrow will be interesting.

I have already stated that I am not going to do the note thing anymore. Should I just pretend nothing ever happened and try to be her friend, and then go from there? I have said before that whether or not she is ever my gf/dating me, I still want to be her friend. I am so sick over this. I have lost time to obsessing about it. I probably sound like some desperate stalker to her. I am confused. Someone please reply soon and help me.
 
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