"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I really don't know what's wrong.

ItsOnNow

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In regards to me and my situation. I don't know if maybe I don't even like chicks as much as I think I do,I'm not gay,but lack of females has bothered me. I don't know if maybe I am somehow embarrassed of myself. I have never even asked any one out,created attraction/tension. Or it could be something else. Yet,Porn is not a problem. I don't think that's a good thing. Also,a lack of a social circle. And feeling having missed out during hs,and now early 20's.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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First, put spaces after your commas.
Second, what the hell are you talking about?
 

ItsOnNow

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I am talking about my constant negative state,unability to change,and just generally feeling depressed,stressed,anxious,and a bit tense. And being in another zone sometimes.
 

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Stop thinking about it dude. just put all that negative stuff out of your mind. Concentrate on all the good things you have in life and more will come.

There's a thing that I do every day when I get up. Even before I get out of bed. I lay there and I think about all the things that I am greatfull for. Even if you don't have many things to be thankful for, you still have something. everyone does. I start my day on that positive note. try it.
 

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Chances are you have created attraction, tension, all that good stuff with girls you knew in the past unwittingly but didn't see the signs.

But it sounds like an inner game issue...Just let those negative thoughts go. Actively think about something positive. Get involved in something that forces you to live more in the moment than in the past or future. As you think, you shall become.

Also, don't be afraid to be alone. I think this is an age thing more than anything--friends begin to drift apart, and you become more isolated out of HS/college. Learn to be independent and resourceful. Join some clubs/groups. Chill in coffeeshops. Be sociable. Become confident in your abilities and learn who you are as a person.

Do you have goals? Are you actively pursuing them?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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