"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I really don't know what's wrong.

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In regards to me and my situation. I don't know if maybe I don't even like chicks as much as I think I do,I'm not gay,but lack of females has bothered me. I don't know if maybe I am somehow embarrassed of myself. I have never even asked any one out,created attraction/tension. Or it could be something else. Yet,Porn is not a problem. I don't think that's a good thing. Also,a lack of a social circle. And feeling having missed out during hs,and now early 20's.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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First, put spaces after your commas.
Second, what the hell are you talking about?
 
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I am talking about my constant negative state,unability to change,and just generally feeling depressed,stressed,anxious,and a bit tense. And being in another zone sometimes.
 
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Stop thinking about it dude. just put all that negative stuff out of your mind. Concentrate on all the good things you have in life and more will come.

There's a thing that I do every day when I get up. Even before I get out of bed. I lay there and I think about all the things that I am greatfull for. Even if you don't have many things to be thankful for, you still have something. everyone does. I start my day on that positive note. try it.
 
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Chances are you have created attraction, tension, all that good stuff with girls you knew in the past unwittingly but didn't see the signs.

But it sounds like an inner game issue...Just let those negative thoughts go. Actively think about something positive. Get involved in something that forces you to live more in the moment than in the past or future. As you think, you shall become.

Also, don't be afraid to be alone. I think this is an age thing more than anything--friends begin to drift apart, and you become more isolated out of HS/college. Learn to be independent and resourceful. Join some clubs/groups. Chill in coffeeshops. Be sociable. Become confident in your abilities and learn who you are as a person.

Do you have goals? Are you actively pursuing them?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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