My girlfriend broke up with me 5 days ago for reasons that she needs to sort her head out and that love isn't enough. We were living together for 8 months, had a dog together and was planning on having a baby (she took her implant out)
Problem was, her family hated my guts. I was always polite to them and social, but her family just seemed to be very two-faced with me. They caused alot of stress in our relationship and it was unfair. She had issues with anger and I helped her through some of the toughest times in her life.
I would complain about her napping all the time in the day and the lack of sex. It confused me because she knew other girls wanted me but she just didnt have a sex drive, but when we ****ed i blew her mind everytime.
Needless to say she stopped over at her sisters the night before she broke up with me, kept calling me up all night to see how i was and then in the morning she became extremely cold and distant with me.
When an old friend called her up out of the blue, she didn't even know who it was on the phone, but when she did she started getting flirty. I reacted angrily because i was already stressed out having to provide for her, pay all the rent (her parents owned the house) because she was jobless.
So she passed me the phone and told me to phone my dad to pick me up because she was breaking up with me. She packed all of my **** and all of the dogs stuff and went upstairs. I tried to reason with her, I tried to find out why she just kept saying she needs to risk losing me to get her mind right. But I was helping her and we were good together, it was when her family got involved was when it got bad.
Anyways, i cried and she was cold with me. She said she had an headache hearing me. She called her sister up in the middle of me speaking, and asked if she would pick her up. She did.
So I've been back in my old enviroment really struggling to get over her. I was slowly getting there and she calls my dad up while im at my mums on the 3rd night crying her eyes out saying she misses me and wants me back. She calls me at my mums but I was out. So when i found out the next day i called her, she was with her sister and cold and distant with me again.
Then she got home cried and said she wanted to be with me but she doesn't know. I asked her if she loved me she said yes and wanted me to be there. She said i should go see her on monday without the dog so that we can see how it goes. I refused to that, it was our dog and i wasnt abandoning it like that, i basically found out on the phone that her family hates me and always giving her conflict. She says she has her own mind but they seem to control her.
I stupidly asked her to stay and be with me to let me come see her but she said she had to be with her nephew. She said she loved me and she kept saying she felt really hurt. She said i should give her till tonight to decide what to do with our relationship, i said it wasnt good enough.
Next thing I know she goes "I cant do this to you, messing my family and you around, i have to do this without you."
and i said you cant keep messing me around like this its hurting, i said i hope you find better than me and then i hung up.
I'm extremely hurt and depressed. I was with this girl everyday for a solid 8 months and we built a life together. How can she just throw what we had away like that. If she loved me, why would she put me through this. She just shut off her feeling towards me like they were nothing. I saw her that day, she was completely cold and distant with me.
I really don't know what to do, we had alot of bad memories because iwas always stressed out with just trying to have a life with her and now i have nothing
Problem was, her family hated my guts. I was always polite to them and social, but her family just seemed to be very two-faced with me. They caused alot of stress in our relationship and it was unfair. She had issues with anger and I helped her through some of the toughest times in her life.
I would complain about her napping all the time in the day and the lack of sex. It confused me because she knew other girls wanted me but she just didnt have a sex drive, but when we ****ed i blew her mind everytime.
Needless to say she stopped over at her sisters the night before she broke up with me, kept calling me up all night to see how i was and then in the morning she became extremely cold and distant with me.
When an old friend called her up out of the blue, she didn't even know who it was on the phone, but when she did she started getting flirty. I reacted angrily because i was already stressed out having to provide for her, pay all the rent (her parents owned the house) because she was jobless.
So she passed me the phone and told me to phone my dad to pick me up because she was breaking up with me. She packed all of my **** and all of the dogs stuff and went upstairs. I tried to reason with her, I tried to find out why she just kept saying she needs to risk losing me to get her mind right. But I was helping her and we were good together, it was when her family got involved was when it got bad.
Anyways, i cried and she was cold with me. She said she had an headache hearing me. She called her sister up in the middle of me speaking, and asked if she would pick her up. She did.
So I've been back in my old enviroment really struggling to get over her. I was slowly getting there and she calls my dad up while im at my mums on the 3rd night crying her eyes out saying she misses me and wants me back. She calls me at my mums but I was out. So when i found out the next day i called her, she was with her sister and cold and distant with me again.
Then she got home cried and said she wanted to be with me but she doesn't know. I asked her if she loved me she said yes and wanted me to be there. She said i should go see her on monday without the dog so that we can see how it goes. I refused to that, it was our dog and i wasnt abandoning it like that, i basically found out on the phone that her family hates me and always giving her conflict. She says she has her own mind but they seem to control her.
I stupidly asked her to stay and be with me to let me come see her but she said she had to be with her nephew. She said she loved me and she kept saying she felt really hurt. She said i should give her till tonight to decide what to do with our relationship, i said it wasnt good enough.
Next thing I know she goes "I cant do this to you, messing my family and you around, i have to do this without you."
and i said you cant keep messing me around like this its hurting, i said i hope you find better than me and then i hung up.
I'm extremely hurt and depressed. I was with this girl everyday for a solid 8 months and we built a life together. How can she just throw what we had away like that. If she loved me, why would she put me through this. She just shut off her feeling towards me like they were nothing. I saw her that day, she was completely cold and distant with me.
I really don't know what to do, we had alot of bad memories because iwas always stressed out with just trying to have a life with her and now i have nothing