"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I realize I am a dj.

frivolousz21

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I finally realize what this is. Every since I got to this website 2 months ago. My eyes have been opened.

I noticed I started spending more time by myself..rather than every waking moment with someone.

I notice I do what I want without second guessing myself.

when I go out to a bar/club..I no longer feel pressured..I feel as if I was sitting on my couch rolling back a 40 oz playing Xbox.

I notice when its time to go to bed..I fall asleep.

I am have no fear of women or rejection....all of a sudden..I have 3 women calling me all the time who want my attention and I didnt even realize it.

I make the best of everysituation I am in.

I enjoy working out more than ever.

I could go on and on..but the point is..I have finally accepted who I am..and I realize I can be whatever I want to be.

good luck
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Maverick001

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frivolousz21,

Congratulations. Another graduate moving on to the next level.

I'm working to get there myself and so far it's been a very interesting and fun journey.

Cheers,
Mav
 

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Nice to see that your inner game is coming together. Before you can be a success with women realize that you need to get your shyt together in other areas first.

I think there is a post by Disciple dealing with this.
 

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thanks man..I honestly feel like I won some war.

one thing of advice for the AFC's ready to make this happen.

NUMBER 1 THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS REALIZE WHAT FEAR IS..THEN TAKE IT ON.

I will tell you what...it wont happen in 1 day..but if you make some charge against your fears everyday..overtime you make bigger and bigger steps until the fear is gone.

Id also like to thank everyone here who as helped me with the amazing advice and stories they have shared. Everythign became so much easier when I realized I was only 1 in millions who were AFC. When I beat the demon to pieces..I always knew I could come back here to learn more.

CHEERS!
 

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Its all about the inner game. Maybe you are fat, ugly, or whatever. When you get your inner game together, you will be motivated to start working out or make the best of what you have.

I am proud of you Chris, keep up the good work. You have no place else to go but up. Once you have your inner game together, you can't go down unless you want to. At this point its all your choice.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Heres to us.

I found out I was a Don Juan long ago just by the way I act. I don't have to prove it to anyone but the ladies ;)
 

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Dam!!! Look at Tony Robbins over here!!!

Can i hire you to be my motivational coach? Well done my friend and thanks for the words of encouragement
 

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Good to hear . . .

This is exactly what I am trying to say in the thread that I started this morning. When you have you inner game in order, things start to happen to you. You can't rush it. It has to happen at its own pace, but when it finally happens, watch out!

I'm happy to hear another former AFC has turned the corner for the better.
 

Ever onward

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Glad to hear that frivolous. I hope you keep posting here. I have always wanted to thank you for starting that bootcamp thread awhile back, it made a big difference in my life.

onward,
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So an orc walks into a bar with a colorful parrot on his shoulder. The bartender goes 'Nice pet! Where'd you get it.' And the parrot answers 'They're all over Ogrimmar!'
 
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