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Ok so I am a late bloomer, I only had sex for the first time at 28 and I recently turned 29 and found my second partner. Now I'm sleeping with them both, so I'm doing the DJ thing. But I don't really enjoy ****ing them. They enjoy it hence why they ask me back. I get compliments about how hot they are from other people. But I can't *** from sex.

I was wanking since the age of 10 and downloading porn not long after, so so I've blown an insane number of loads to porn. When I am done with my girls I love to watch porn alone so I can ***.

These women are 21 and 28, very horny, we just **** till we get tired and sweaty then give up. We all want me to *** but for me this sex thing is totally different to how I'm used to getting off. And I don't even want to give up porn.

I think my problem is a mindset thing, I am physiologically healthy, my **** works. I just need to adjust my thinking. I got to admit the nofap thing doesn't appeal to me at all, though I do abstain from fapping on the day of sleeping with a woman. Any advice?
 

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You've did the knuckle shuffle so much that you are desensitized from actual sex. You need to start the step down method in masturbation. How many times a day do you jack off? Twice? Slowly go down to one. Then the next week or two, go down to every other day. You'll have to ween yourself down to a normal level. Also, if you keep busy and work on your purpose in life, you shouldn't have so much time to knock one out.

It truly is mind over matter. Who's in control of your mind? Your logical mind or your lizard mind?
 

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Might I suggest contacting Dave, he seems to be well informed in the area of self pleasure.
 

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"I prefer masturbation"

Me too...I is expert monkey spanker!

Practice makes perfect!:p
 

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If you’re feeling it, do it, but don’t abuse that personal privilege to addiction levels or at the expense of missing real life opportunities…
 
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Consider this kind of thing as playing with fire. It's fun until it isn't. There are many many stories online of people ruining their lives because of compulsive masturbation and porn. You're lucky you are young... time to turn things around.
 

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Happened to me too. I’m quitting fapping now cause I want to enjoy sex.
 

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Consider this kind of thing as playing with fire. It's fun until it isn't. There are many many stories online of people ruining their lives because of compulsive masturbation and porn. You're lucky you are young... time to turn things around.
Oh Bullsh!t …..Porn is great as long as you don't overdose the key here is moderation.I have learned some useful techniques from watching porn and have applied them in the bedroom and they have worked.They also taught me the slooty nature of women along with attending live donkey shows in Juarez,Mexico.I grew up in a religious household if it were not for my friends showing my their fathers Penthouse magazines growing up I would have not got any god damned sex ed.
 

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From the cultural perspective, porn is effectively the opium of the masses today. The internet, something Huxley could never have foreseen, has gone one better - it has combined into one the drug of soma and recreational sex that he envisioned in a purely rational productive world.
 

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I'm convinced that many more lives have been ruined by people who DON'T masturbate/watch porn.
^This. Think about it. Who is more likely to ruin your life, a woman or your hand?
 

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^This. Think about it. Who is more likely to ruin your life, a woman or your hand?
They often go hand in hand... or should I say they are tied at the hip.

A compulsive masturbator has no impulse control... he is addicted to an out-of-control over-inflated libido/Id. Then a woman comes along, flashes her eyes, and has him twisted around her little finger... all due to lack of control.
 

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^This. Think about it. Who is more likely to ruin your life, a woman or your hand?
Sucks when you get in an argument with your hand. Who wins? At least with a woman, you can walk away.. Can't really do that with your hands.. Well, I guess you can chop them off... Not a good choice in my opinion though.
 

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try Chaturbate
 

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Cute wording... hand in hand with the OP discussing masturbation... Classic.
Or hand over hand if u hands small and u Johnson big:rofl::rofl:
 

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^This. Think about it. Who is more likely to ruin your life, a woman or your hand?
Not only that, but let's go a step further.

I'd say most crimes are committed by testosterone fueled aggression. What if those guys would just beat off?

Another step further - what if all these clowns who have no interest in being a father - would beat off instead of f*cking a bunch of ghetto sl*ts and getting them pregnant?

Another step further - is prostitution THAT bad? It could help curb these things too. And women could make money. See the Bunny Ranch.

Now, none of this aligns with my Christian beliefs, so I'm being honest. I see abortion the same way....is it THAT bad? Most of the people who are aborting babies are the 'undesirables', that is fact. However, you could trace that back to the beginning. As in, if men were true leaders based on Christian principles, and women were supplicating to them as they should, and the traditional family structure was valued, etc.....there'd be no use for porn or prostitution or birth control, and there'd be no babies born out of wedlock without fathers.

But, toothpaste and tube, I guess. And really, is it BAD of me to want bad people in this world to refrain from reproducing?
 

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Not only that, but let's go a step further.

I'd say most crimes are committed by testosterone fueled aggression. What if those guys would just beat off?

Another step further - what if all these clowns who have no interest in being a father - would beat off instead of f*cking a bunch of ghetto sl*ts and getting them pregnant?

Another step further - is prostitution THAT bad? It could help curb these things too. And women could make money. See the Bunny Ranch.

Now, none of this aligns with my Christian beliefs, so I'm being honest. I see abortion the same way....is it THAT bad? Most of the people who are aborting babies are the 'undesirables', that is fact. However, you could trace that back to the beginning. As in, if men were true leaders based on Christian principles, and women were supplicating to them as they should, and the traditional family structure was valued, etc.....there'd be no use for porn or prostitution or birth control, and there'd be no babies born out of wedlock without fathers.

But, toothpaste and tube, I guess. And really, is it BAD of me to want bad people in this world to refrain from reproducing?
Personally, the problem is that the wrong people are reproducing. The right people either do not want to due to freedom, expense, selfishness, medical reasons or time. You have the lowest social economic classes reproducing like litters. But due to time, resources, money the middle class and above are not. Personally, I think it would be best if there was a way to lock up conception until two people are ready to start a family. We have too many kids in daycare or with single parents. It's a cascade effect.

I know someone is going to say, well, what is right. Right in terms of being able to afford the children and give them the love, care and attention all child need. Not sending them off to daycare and rubbing two nickels together to feed a family. It's crazy how much it costs to raise a child these days when compared to 20 or 30 years ago. That is our biggest enemy. The costs of raising children. I am no socialist, but if there were ways to keep the costs within reason, more of the right people would have children.
 
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