"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I/O psychology, anyone?

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Do you want to be a professor of psychology?
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Not so much. I dont have much desire to teach but at some point later down the road that might change. Research is always interesting and beneficial, depending on how practical it is. Before i wanted to have a private practice and all that good stuff but that isnt as interesting now and its the "cliche" road to take, which is why i was interested in i/o. After doing more research i think social psych is what i need to focus on. I knew social psych dealt with groups, group dynamics, and other social aspects, but i thought i/o dealt with the samethings and applied them. I plan to get my PhD regardless of what i do because i want a variety of possibilities for myself.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm in the same boat as you. I love social psych research, but a Ph.D in it only really prepares you to be a professor. There aren't that many jobs out there for Ph.Ds in research psychology outside of academia, so professorship here I come!
 
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I'm in the same boat as you. I love social psych research, but a Ph.D in it only really prepares you to be a professor. There aren't that many jobs out there for Ph.Ds in research psychology outside of academia, so professorship here I come!
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Im sure there would be a wide range of opportunities. Marketing and consumer behavior are always an option i suppose. Where do you wanna go to grad school at, and hows the application process?
 
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doctoroxygen said:
I'm in the same boat as you. I love social psych research, but a Ph.D in it only really prepares you to be a professor. There aren't that many jobs out there for Ph.Ds in research psychology outside of academia, so professorship here I come!
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True, true. Though what does a Bachelor's or Master's get you?

A PhD is still probably the best way into any field related to social psychology. And it's the best way to be in charge if you work in industry.
 
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